…do you ever wonder why you haven’t yet doubled your income?


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Forever being a student of life, I recently attended a training that promised to show me how to “double my income,” if I just bought their $3997.00 program. Hmm. Well, maybe…. Money is energy. It is available to everyone without regard for race or gender or chance of birth. That’s the basic tenet of the Law of Attraction hype that many businesses are built on and quite successfully promote. And I am a certified LOA practitioner, among other things. But keep reading, because it’s not that simple…. Long before The Secret, and well before all the books and LOA specialists began to stuff your inbox, I owned a small “angel store,” in Salt Lake City, Utah. There were many lessons to be learned there. For example, when I opened the doors, I had no idea that the predominant religion frowned on “wings” on angels. Who knew…. That “non-winged” concept is not Continue Reading →

They’re Bringing the Straitjacket for Me…. Time Sensitive


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They’re saying that I’m “giving it all away” … and that tells me I am doing the right thing! Tee hee…. This is also being sent out as an email blast, and is all over social media, so please read this and if it interests you, get in on it fast, and claim all the incredible bonuses! This package is so drastically reduced that my bookkeeper thinks the IRS is going to squeal and it might be best to quit! I’m not scared. I’m excited. Are you? So here’s the deal, instead of re-writing this again, just click here to see the details of what my bookkeeper refers to as “this madness.”  That’s okay, I answer back, after all, it’s March. And March Madness is perfectly acceptable   Claim your piece of my madness! QUEEN’S DOZEN

How to Tame a Run-Amok Monkey Mind


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That pesky Monkey Mind is at the root of all which remains undone. It runs off with the mind’s focus, creating a jungle of tangles…one thing entwined with another until all is a blur and your mind is a vacant lot. Your plans, if you had any, are regrettably derailed. That Monkey Mind runs amok while you’re left to piece together the ruins/remains of the day. Nothing gets accomplished. Any avenues of creating are like dust scattered to the winds. That big money-making idea that you had in the shower, dissipated into just a vague memory in the chaos…. Or maybe you sat down at your desk, fully intending to complete that tax return. You go online to do a quick check of email, and the Monkey Mind takes over. The next time you look up, you’ve lost three hours and have no idea of where you’ve been. Worse still is Continue Reading →

Is It Possible to Create Your Own Luck?


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♣♣♣ Roman Philosopher, Seneca, is credited with saying, “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” This reminds me of the timeless psychological debate over “nature” or “nurture” being the primary root of our behavior. In the case of nature versus nurture, I’m inclined to say it’s both. And having three children of my own –each one very different from the other two while simultaneously being undeniably cut from the same genetic cloth, I’ve got something with which to back up my perspective. My first-born looked just like his father. Everything about him. He was a “mini” of his dad. The second was tall and thin and most closely resembled my father. And the third, is a perfect mix of both gene pools. But personality wise, one is much “luckier” than the others. And in different talents and skills, they each have their own. Of course, all the psychology books Continue Reading →

Lucky You!



$pecial $t. Patty$ Day Promotion Escaping the Chrysalis Companion Workbook $pecial (With irresistible bonuses!)  The luck ‘o the Irish must be with you if you’re seeing this! Lucky, lucky, lucky you! You can get in on this sweet-green deal today!  And … Grab your copy of Escaping the Chrysalis Companion Workbook for only $47!   That’s a $avings of More Than Half Off! PLUS: There are BONUSES! Free BONUSES: Escaping the Chrysalis Emergence Course Introduction (MP4) $  97 Value Escaping the Chrysalis Audio Series Introduction (MP3)           $147 Value The Secret Power of Self-Esteem (e-book)                                $  47 Value Now THAT’s LUCKY! Especially ‘lucky’ are those who implement the leprechaun-like magic contained in this potentially life-enhancing manual! WHY? Do I say you’re lucky to get in on this $pecial $t. Patty$ Day Promotion? Because even at full Continue Reading →

Is It Those Mean Boys and Girls All Over Again?


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Now that you’re an adult, do you ever feel like you’re being ignored or shunned, or worse, mistreated at your job, in your personal and professional relationships, by your peers, and even by strangers at the super market? Are you sick and tired of feeling like you’re not being seen, heard, respected? Are you tired of not being taken seriously, of having to stifle your opinion and ideas, biting your tongue, keeping it zipped in, and stuffing your true emotions? Are you tired of being the wallflower? Are you holding on to so much resentment that you fear when you do ultimately snap, you’ll make “going postal” seem like kids’ play? What if I told you I have the means to help you own your voice? What if you decided that it’s time to step out from the shadows and into the light which is your right? What if you allowed Continue Reading →

Happiness Is Letting Go of the Grief that Binds You



My eyes have seen beyond grief’s curtain. No longer am I victimized by an emotional charge that in the past would have consumed me. In fact, in the past, at some level, albeit non-conscious, I had missed the truth that pretty much everyone who has lived has experienced some level of grief. What I know for sure is that I am not alone. This awareness that we each have our own individual challenge to bear, is not what led me to explore my own grief so fully. That was a purely personal action, again made non-consciously. It was an urge to make sense of the senseless, that ultimately led me to the dark inner journey that took years to complete. But complete, I did. And with that completion came a force which causes the legendary phoenix to pale in comparison. Our journeys are personal. After all, no one has experienced Continue Reading →

Is Your Story Hurting You? Happiness is Letting Go….


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We all have stories that are pieces of our history. We may still be telling the same story decades after decades, reinforcing the energetic emotional vibration of the story and re-creating the story in different titles. So I ask you, is your story hurting you? Whatever it is, if your story is holding you back and keeping you stuck in an unhappy life, it’s time to claim your culpability for your circumstances. You’ve become addicted to the emotions of your story. The drama, comedy, love story of your life is entrenched by the telling and re-creating of the same story over and over again. You’re type-cast in the role that you continue to act on. We all know people who leave one relationship for the next, only to re-create the same circumstances with the new lover. And most humans are far removed from the truth that the drama and pain Continue Reading →

Banish the Energetic Charge of Regret and Plant Seeds of Possibility


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 There is a negative energetic charge associated with “What ifs,” of wishing things had been different: What if I had been there at the time? What if I hadn’t said what I said? What if I had done this instead of that? When asking “Wouldn’t it be great,” your imagination is allowed to express itself progressively. The possibilities are ahead, not behind you. Wouldn’t it be great to spend summers in the South of France? Wouldn’t it be great to be a successful entrepreneur? Wouldn’t it be great to feel abundant? Wouldn’t it be great to trust the future to always be there? There are seeds of potential in the “Wouldn’t it be great” query. And those seeds are nurtured and cultivated by possibility instead of being squelched by regret. When you banish the energetic charge of regret and plant seeds of possibility you dramatically increase the odds of your Continue Reading →

Battle Scars & Blessings


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A few years ago, I was watching a gaggle of guys comparing their scars. One man had a long scar down his arm that looked like something from a Halloween costume. Another man had a nasty part in his left eyebrow. He said it bled. A lot. The third man lifted his shirt to reveal a deep wide line from his collar-bone to his belly button where it made a sharp left turn towards his back. He had experienced open heart surgery. Hands down, his scar was the winner. It’s different with the women I know. We try to camouflage our scars with a layer of skin matching foundation. And in my entire life, I have not shared my scar stories. Too often, inner conflict leaves invisible scars in the form of stuck energy. And when that energy remains stagnant, it stops the flow. And when energy doesn’t flow, everything Continue Reading →

Confidence Tip #8 Making It Happen With Optimism



Optimism is a golden perspective that weaves through your attitude, your beliefs, and perhaps most importantly, through your actions. It’s far more substantiative than simply viewing all of life through rose-colored glasses. Optimism shows itself through your attitude, and through your beliefs and actions. With an optimistic frame, everything in life is connected and relevant. Traits of Optimistic People: Set clearly defined goals. Commit to reach the defined goals. Put in the effort required to reach the goal. Do what it takes despite outside opinions. Stay focused on the big picture “why” of their efforts. Stay the course through a challenge. Have coping mechanisms in place for stressful times. Are energized by their commitment to outcome. See the good in the world overall. Acknowledge personal strengths and skills. Accomplish more despite distractions. Studies reveal that optimism is a good indicator for predicting potential work performance and success. As it goes, Continue Reading →

Confidence Tip #7


Hey Big Britches: Who Do You Think You Are? “If you don’t start out too big for your britches, how are you gonna fill ‘em when you grow up?”  ~Stephen King Either during childhood, or as an adult have you ever had a “big” idea, a wondrous dream, or a sudden burst of self-confidence to try something new, only to be reeled in by your internal (generally critical) voice? That inner voice generally pipes up with something judgmental that’s akin to, “Who do you think you are?” Suddenly, you find yourself in an internal tug-of-war of sorts between your confident, forward moving occasionally tenacious self and the other self –that one who holds you back by causing you to question your ability, and frankly, to doubt your worthiness and deserving. If you’re anything like me, you’ve heard those voices say things like: You always start a new project and never Continue Reading →

“The most terrifying thing…” …the Mirror Exercise



“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” Carl Jung This statement by Carl Jung contains the essence of why I am here, promoting self-esteem and gestalt techniques as the way to fulfillment. Too few humans take the journey inward, into the vastness of who we are subjectively. Recently there has been talk among Louise Hay’s circle about the mirror exercise that is included in the Self-Love Toolkit that all clients receive when working with me. Whether in the form of the Escaping the Chrysalis Companion Workbook for home study, or in the online course work, and most definitely at live events, all clients eventually learn to look in the mirror, and get very clear about what they see. My core tenet that underscores everything in my coaching practice and my life is that Regardless of where the experience takes place, at a live event, or in the comfort of Continue Reading →

YOUR Passsion Turned Into Profit? Do YOU Believe?



There is a saying that goes something like, do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life…. It’s not quite the truth. There will always be things that you don’t especially love to do that must be done in business. However, with that said, you can turn your passion into profit and hire out the stuff that isn’t your “thing.” I liken this to the idea taught to me by a car stereo salesman. He assured me that my 100 watt per channel stereo was a powerful and valuable audio system, and then he advised me that any system is only as good as the weakest link. I think of that wisdom now as I consider my passion and the many ways it brings me profit AND joy. In spite of following my passionate purpose, there are many places in my business where I am the weak Continue Reading →

7 Compelling Reasons & Mercury Must Be Retrograde…



From a techie perspective, a lot went wrong today. Suddenly Window 8.1 wouldn’t play nice and the webinar went south. The end result is a recording with some background noise and a file size that is too large for my web host to allow. Not to be one to sit on her laurels, my tenacious streak kicked in and I had the recording uploaded to YouTube in order that I could then send anyone interested to that video… but not before I had to complete a System Restore on my computer…that didn’t fully take the first time. And there was that volume thing…but all in all, not bad for a first attempt on a new webinar. Oye vey…. Sometimes things don’t go the way WE planned. Sometimes the tasks or the whole day seem to just disintegrate into yesterday, leaving us to wonder at the results. I blame sunspots and Continue Reading →

Is Happiness a Choice? #I Am Choosing Happiness….



The question is an authentic one: Is happiness a choice? My cherished friend and bestselling publisher, the incomparable Linda Joy released Inspiration for a Woman’s Soul: Choosing Happiness featuring the soul-inspiring stories of 27 amazing women who share their intimate stories of transformation. And because “happiness” is my favorite subject I gotta say that my favorite part of Choosing Happiness is that after the end of each story, it includes Reflection Questions which will empower you to integrate the vital lessons of each woman’s journey into your own life. And of course, there is an incentive to check this out, because for a limited time you can get over 40 transformational gifts with your copy of Choosing Happiness. Grab your copy today:  http://bit.ly/Happiness_Book And when you have read to the bottom, come back up and download your own copy of the Choosing Happiness Poster -Spread Happiness! Let’s Start a Happiness Riot!  PRINT IT Continue Reading →

Hearing With the Intelligence of Your Heart…


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Your heart, my heart, everyone’s heart has a brain. This heart brain is actually an older intelligence source than are the brains in our respective heads. And in my bias, the heart intellect is the most intelligent brain…. If you be still, with your point of attention being on your emotional heart, and listen with your intuition, you will hear with your heart and will receive your heart’s messages. The hearing ability of  your heart is most frequently muffled by inner voices in the head brain, but your heart is the source of much wisdom. Those head messages may say things like, “don’t trust your heart,” or “don’t let anyone in,” or “you’ve got to listen to your mind, think about it, protect yourself, who do you think you are, be reasonable….”  The head has a lot of ego invested in being considered #1. The heart is less critical and Continue Reading →

Confidence Tip #6



Confidence is the core essence of success or failure. It determines how we are perceived by others and how far we go in life. However, confidence is not a lack of fear. It’s recognizing fear and moving forward with the courage and confidence to know that regardless of outcome, you’ll still be just fine. The idea goes something like this: There is a desire which may or may not be turned into a goal, depending on whether or not it is judged “reachable/attainable.” We look at the obstacles and possible outcomes in order to decide if we will pursue the desire, in which case it will become a goal. The decision to pursue or not however, is veiled by our beliefs, biases, and values. If the desire is in line with our top values, we can check it off as possibly being something to pursue, provided it meets other criteria such Continue Reading →

Confidence Tip #5 Small Steps = Big Wins


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Small Steps Make For Big Wins Have you ever noticed that when your confidence is low, you downplay your strengths and overemphasize your flaws? Or, that when you feel small, you act small, or not at all? When this happens your self-esteem and confidence plummets and the cycle sends you spiraling downward until you feel as if you are a loser – a lost cause. That simply is not true. You have gifts, attributes, and skills that are uniquely yours. And if you look back over your life, you will find that you have experienced many successes, and positively impacted others’ lives. If you ever feel yourself minimizing your positive traits and maximizing your flaws, then take these steps for reversing the cycle and getting back into the winner circle. Step 1 – Celebrate your wins. By recognizing your successes, whether it’s facing a challenge, making a difficult phone call, Continue Reading →

Mind Movies for Manifesting


We’ve all heard of “Vision Boards” as a tool for the pursuit of manifesting the life of our desires. And honestly, I use a vision board and each December 31st through January 1 you will find me creating a fresh vision board for my coming year. It’s a practice which I share with close contacts as we meet with our images, our thoughts, and our dreams and individually create our renditions of our subjective perfect lives. A few years ago, I added movies to my manifesting mix. I gathered images and created affirmations and using Power Point, I created a personal movie. It was set to royalty-free music which I downloaded from www.melodyloops.com. My little movie is cool, but it’s very NON-Professional! And it took a lot of work to get it to even play on my old computer because the end result file was simply too large. Apparently Natalie Ledwell had the same Continue Reading →

Confidence Tip #4 Calculated Risk Taking


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Being a “Risk Taker” even when you’re scared of falling on your figurative face is one of the scariest, yet most rewarding of all traits to hone. We all seem to admire risk takers – especially when, against the odds, they win, or when they give a thrilling performance. There’s something particularly exciting about anyone who obviously feels the fear and still takes a chance: The person who has courage to start a business in a down economy comes to mind; A football team that is considered the underdog that goes for the two point conversion to win the game; Anyone or any group making the choice to put it all on the line to get what they want. These folks seem fearless. And these folks are attractive. They also reap the rewards that would otherwise be impossible if not for the courageous action they take. And now for the Continue Reading →

Relationships: Obsession Phrases?



Some of you may have received an invitation to complete a survey. If you’ve already taken the survey, thank you! And if not, please go to the HOME page and scroll to the bottom to take the quick (10 questions) survey for me. Thus far, the number 1 request is for Relationship assistance. The next big product coming down the pike may just be centered around relationships. I’ve got a relationship enhancing guide in the works, which will focus on inspiring greater, more intimate connections, and which, as a result of those more intimate connections, will likely enhance sex lives and strengthen romantic relationships. I’m hoping the guide will be available for a Valentine’s Day launch. No promises though! Until then, I’ve done a bit of research and have come up with some relationship offerings through some apparently like-minded vendors, and I thought I may as well share the what I Continue Reading →

Confidence Tip #2: Kicking Buts & Taking Names….


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To “own” your confidence and your personal power, you will likely need to kick some of those limiting “buts” from your repertoire of habitual actions. Here’s the truth: Whenever we utter the word, “but” it negates what came prior. As example, if you hear yourself say, “I would achieve my goal but…the “but” pulls all the truth from the beginning of the statement. You may as well affirm “I won’t achieve my goal.” The effect is the same. If you want to feel empowered, try saying this instead: “I would achieve my goal AND….” Feel the difference. “But” victimizes. “And” expands. Ask yourself, if you are a dreamer, a doer, or both? Is your head in the clouds, full of ideas, or are you able to plant your feet on the ground and take action? Are you a nice blend of ideas and grounding? Confident people let their imagination soar Continue Reading →

Confidence Tip #1


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Confidence and You Confidence has an effect on every facet of your life. Your confidence level is directly correlated to your job, your finances, your friends, lovers, and even influences who you marry. And confidence is hot. Consider just for a moment, a recent social or business gathering you attended. Who were the people who clearly projected confidence? You probably remember them well because confident people radiate a warmth and enthusiasm that draws people toward them. They approach these occasions as opportunities to meet, greet and grow. They are there to network, whether for fun or business or both. Less confident people, however, generally hide in the background or stick closely to people they know…or gravitate to the buffet, ducking behind the chocolate fountain. It’s human to yearn to have confidence – to feel as if we belong. With that very “human” yearning in mind, here are a few tips Continue Reading →

January “Spring” Cleaning…and Feng Shui.



I’ve been tending to my January “Spring” cleaning and I was reminded of the great push I made a few year back to make my space “feng-shui” perfect…. It led me to put together Simplified Feng Shui: The Energy of Life. This is, just as the title suggests, an ultra simplified feng shui approach to no drive you to the point of frazzle which I drove myself to! lol… At any rate, if you’ve got money blocks, are experiencing a lack of love, or have some tension in your life, if you seek more recognition, better health, more solid connections, and even a little more travel in your life, pick up a copy of this informative, simplified feng shui approach to taking control of your life.  Feng shui, literally translates to “wind and water.” It is the energy of life, and has an effect on your life whether you realize it or Continue Reading →

Change Your Life with this Escaping the Chrysalis Companion Workbook


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After much labor, time, and energy of the past eons…the empowering companion to the award-winning Escaping the Chrysalis is in the last push until this brainchild is finally born! The much anticipated, jam-packed, life-changing Escaping the Chrysalis Companion Workbook is so close I can see the crown chakra! lol This Escaping the Chrysalis Companion Workbook, is just that: A WORKBOOK! It’s meant to be scribbled in, dog-eared, colored in and used-used-used! This volume contains so much inspiring, valuable information that can absolutely transform your life! PLUS, we’ve add a few dozen journal pages so you can keep your thoughts and activities all in one place. This is the life-changing book you want. It uses tricks of the trade to enlighten, empower, and transform. And until this special ends, it can be yours for a HUGE $avings! If you want to get this EMPOWERING LIFE MANUAL for LESS than 50% $avings, hurry Continue Reading →

Never Try to LOSE Weight Again!



If you’re a person who has ever struggled with maintaining your optimal goal weight, you are not alone. According to the Center for Disease Control in America, more than one-third of all Americans are not only overweight, but are actually in the obese category. http://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/adult.html Every year, especially around this new year beginning, billions of dollars are spent on diets, supplements, exercise equipment, and spa memberships, as well as on nutritional programs, and lest we forget, rising health insurance premiums. It’s not about vanity. Unhealthy weight is deadly and leads to diabetes, coronary problems, heart disease, myriad other diseases and premature death. And yes, a little self-love goes a long way in the battle of the bulge. In many of these cases, particularly where morbid obesity is concerned, body armor is the culprit in these deaths. And body armor comes from emotions which are held in the body as protection against intruders, Continue Reading →

Jan Freedom: The Literal Feeling of ‘YES’


In the spirit of freedom (our chosen theme for 2015), using the magnifying glass to shine the light on what stops that full-winged freedom seems a nice starting point…. As a purpose-driven human, are there times when your life path seems dimly lit? If so, is this because you are blocking clarity? The clarity is always within you, if only you learn, as Abraham says in the video below, to “enhance your receptivity.” Indeed, being open to “receiving the signal” is your primary purpose if you truly desire to live in the light of your divine purpose. As another valuable layer to embracing and expanding your wholeness, you may wish to learn to “enhance your receptivity” by getting to the literal feeling of ‘yes’ as much as possible. The literal feeling of ‘yes’ comes when you focus on what’s good in your life. Instead of looking for trouble or worrying about Continue Reading →

Got a BOOK in You? FREE 4 U….


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The talented Lisa Tener has helped thousands to bring their dream of a book to a reality. If your new year resolution has anything to do with writing that book that you know is inside you, check out this FREE webinar! Write your book in 2015! https://df115.isrefer.com/go/BYBTL2015/URWhole There’s nothing like the feeling of accomplishment that you’ll experience when you are cradling your newborn brainchild in your hands. That unmistakable fresh ink scent, and the waft of the paper pages…. It’s fabulous! It’s way better than those electronic books! There’s nothing like print! I have created multiple electronic books, and a handful of print and I am telling you it’s AWESOME to hold that baby in your hands and wonder what took you so long to deliver?! And when everyone is congratulating you on your achievement, you will smile at what you’ve created. It’s pretty awesome. And with each one, you Continue Reading →

Let Go of Blocks FREE Downloadable Gift!


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As we enter into 2015, instead of allowing the typical “down weeks” between December and January to eat up valuable time with scattered space and mistletoe, use that time to contemplate exactly what you intend for the coming months. And if there are old pattern, stale beliefs, worn-out internalized messages of self-worth holding you back, do whatever it takes to release them. Commit to YOU! Create your private ritual of balloon release, or burning a written account to free the energies once and for all, or by following the techniques included in the FREE download at the bottom of this post. Make the ceremony your own, and consciously choose to let go of whatever stops you from stepping into your wholeness. It’s time. If you need a little step-by-step guidance, make the commitment to yourself. You deserve to live a life complete and free of the baggage from long ago. Continue Reading →

FREE Alignment Technique for Manifesting


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Image Creative Commons Reiki In order to successfully achieve any dream, we must first be an energetic match for it or we simply will not allow it to show up. We each have an internal thermostat which governs what is allowed into our lives. This governor is set at a familiar level. It keeps us at a level of comfortably receiving that which we desire, and stops anything we are not yet an energetic match for. With that concept in mind, consider the things you have wished for over the span of your life. Have you found some levels of achievement easier to manifest than others? Have you noticed a certain threshold where your finances generally hover around? Are all the vehicles you’ve owned and the homes you’ve ever lived in of a similar value? I’m betting that’s the case. Most of us never roll far from the tree and Continue Reading →

An Empowering Opportunity for Dreamers


Have you ever wondered what your dream meant? I’m not talking about the way that some folks will say that symbols like snakes and demons represent sex…. Dreams are a treasure trove of information from yourself to you. And to really explore that wonderland, I’ve put together a 10 module online course that will empower you to never again have a dream you don’t understand or from which you don’t glean a lot of inner wisdom. To read more about dreams click here If you’re interested, you’ll save half by going to this link before December 13th: http://www.JanDeelstra.com/dreams-101

DREAMS: Your Treasure Trove of Riches


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Dreams 101 Imagine the possibilities when you are able to tap into the inner wisdom and information source that Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, and other great minds depended on…. Dreams, all dreams, are a treasure trove of riches awaiting you…. And now you have access to the treasure map…. Your dreams contain personal messages for you, and no, not the kind that come from symbols…but the kind that come from you…. Your dreams are a treasure trove of inner wisdom awaiting your acknowledgment and understanding…. Never again have a dream you don’t understand (Even -or especially nightmares offer gems to be recognized and embraced. Never again have a dream from which you don’t glean all sorts of secret messages. This is a time-limited all online course which consists of 10 short modules that can be completed back-to-back. And until December 13th, the course is priced at only $97 for those who Continue Reading →

Coping With Loss and Stress at the Holidays


This time of year brings a polarity of love and loss. If you’ve lost a loved-one and they are not a part of the traditions, that wound stings, even as carolers sing high notes. Coping with loss and stress at the holidays is somehow harder than coping during other times of the year. My brother died in his sleep of “unknown natural cause” on December 4th of 1977 and I still think of him with sadness this time of year. It’s not a fresh wound of course, but the holidays changed following his sudden unexpected death. There’s a reverence in my head and heart on December 4th, even all these years later. It lingers…a residue that has no place to go…it just wafts around me through the season. If you experience great loss, traditional family holidays are a mix of emotions. Beginning with Thanksgiving in America, and continuing through about Continue Reading →

Looking Backward and Forward


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I’ve been looking backward and forward this week…. Wow. Can you believe we’re into December? How are you doing on your 2014 goals? Have your reached as far as you’d hoped? Did you accomplish some, most, or all of what you set out to achieve this year? I gotta tell you that I adopted a new vision concerning goals, and it’s one of looking back only briefly to see how far I’ve come. Otherwise, my sights are set on looking forward! It’s like looking in the side mirror of an automobile as you drive down the street. Glance over at that mirror and see where you’ve come from, but don’t stay looking backwards too long! Keep your eye on the destination! Things have been ultra-busy here as we get ready to tie the bow on 2014 and launch into the next twelve months. We are practicing optimism and gratitude. Some Continue Reading →

112 Question Self-Esteem Inventory


Order the 112 Question Self-Esteem Inventory receive a FREE Evaluation of Your Results! PLUS…read to the page bottom for a Special VERY Limited Offer! Order the 112 Question Self-Esteem Inventory and Receive a FREE Evaluation of Your Results! Regularly $97! Get it today for a fraction of the cost! Today only $47! Includes a FREE Personalized Written Evaluation! Plus…you’ll qualify for a FREE 15 minute phone consultation to discuss your results! This call alone is valued at $97! Have you ever wondered what keeps you spinning in the same pattern of life? Regardless of how many times you say “things are gonna be different,” not much seems to change. Here’s what you might want to think about: “Insanity,” it’s been said, “is doing the same thing over repeatedly and expecting different results.” It makes sense that nothing changes, if we change nothing. Did you make New Year resolutions in January? If Continue Reading →

Confidence Tip #3: Embrace Fear


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Do you admire risk takers – especially when they win or give a thrilling performance? There’s something exciting and attractive about someone who dares takes a chance – that person who has courage to start a business in a down economy is someone who gets my attention, in someone else’s perspective, a football team that goes for the two point conversion to win the game might be more of a turn on, or perhaps those that put it all on the line to get what they want are ultimately the one that gets respect. These folks all seem fearless…. How about you? What was the last bold risk you took? What risk did you not take that maybe would have paid off? Don’t judge yourself. Just notice…. If this is true for you, then you might want to invest a minute to understand fear better. Fear, you may have heard, Continue Reading →

Are You A Modern Day Goddess?



I’m guessing if you’re reading this, you are a modern day goddess…. Or maybe you are wondering what is a “modern day goddess”? A modern day goddess is a woman who is unfolding to her divine truth. She is on an inner quest to uncover her personal callings. I am honored to reveal that I have been interviewed as a featured modern day goddess in the Modern Day Goddess Blog. The process of being asked to answer a series of profound questions was cause for reflection. The by-product of time taken to reflect was enlightening. It is also a warm feeling to be included with so many other inspiring modern day goddesses. Catch the interview and play in the garden with passionate, spirit-led modern day goddesses like you…. I invite you to join me on the Modern Day Goddess Blog where you’ll meet many of these passionate modern day goddesses, and learn from Continue Reading →

What Do YOU Want? A Secret & A Free Offer!


(I know you’re busy so total reading time is less than 5 minutes… …keep reading for a secret & a free offer!) “What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”  ~Napoleon Hill When you ask yourself the question, what do you want? do you hear inner dialog that tells you all the reasons you “can’t” have, be, or do, whatever you desire? Within all of us is a Guide. The Guide is here to protect us, but sometimes, the Guide does too much to prevent new information from entering. The Guide learned a lot along the way, and has become the gatekeeper to the subconscious mind. This Guide now uses information learned prior to about age 5 or 6 to automatically ensure a smooth ride on the path of life. But what happens when that inner Guide has learned some untruths and doesn’t open to new Continue Reading →

Self-Esteem Expert Jan Deelstra has a deal for you ladies!


Your Self-Esteem Expert Jan Deelstra has a deal for you ladies! Escaping the Chrysalis Companion Workbook 50% savings on pre-orders only until Halloween! And the First 11 to order get a BONUS! If you’d rather “cut to the chase” click: Escaping the Chrysalis Companion Workbook   otherwise keep reading…. Here’s my short story: I AM an award winning transformational author and a self-esteem confidence expert who has embraced my calling of empowering women also known as women’s empowerment since 1984. Over the course of three decades, I have assisted thousands of women in finding and owning their voices, and in stepping into their full-winged feminine power. That’s the essence I hope for in my logo. I want it to represent freedom. Above all else, freedom is the value I cherish most. And it is why I do what I do, which is to write the transformational empowerment books, facilitate the process as Continue Reading →

The Flying Game Might Give YOU Wings


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The Flying Game might give YOU wings…and help you reconnect with your inner super hero… Can you recall a time when you were super confident? Nothing scared you…well almost nothing! And then you learned that snakes are slithery, and frogs are wet, and spiders, well spiders just have too many legs so of course they became a little creepy…. Reclaim that inner super hero! Read The Flying Game and be inspired to once again be that tenacious, brave warrioress you were born as. Reconnect with your relentless tenacity and courage and step fully into the light of your limitless potential. “Stella always won the flying game,” and so can you…. http://www.amazon.com/Flying-Game-Jan-Deelstra/dp/0988533472/ Clicking the cover picture or the Amazon link above will take you completely out of this site and into Amazon.com for purchase. Bookmark this page for easy return! The Flying Game is a fictional account of Stella Harris, a woman Continue Reading →

Is “Entrepreneur” an Excuse to Not Work?


What do YOU think? Is “Entrepreneur” an excuse to Not work? Are those of us who are following our dreams, and encouraging others to do the same, really just lazy sorts who use our dream as an excuse to not work? Or are we the ones who will pull the global economic slump up by its metaphorical bootstraps as we hire our VAs, our graphics and copy writers, and enlarge our staffs? Are those 80+ hour work weeks really just time with our heads in the clouds? Or are we more in line with the day-dreamers like Albert Einstein, Henry Ford, and Walt Disney? Entrepreneurs know how many hours are spent enveloped in the passion that gladly steals so much time and energy. And entrepreneurs also have most likely had to ward off the evil demons of doubt thrown at them by relatives who fail to see the bravery and Continue Reading →

Chasing Rabbits & I Am… Released With FREE Kindle Edition


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Chasing Rabbits & I Am… The Art of Attainment is released! And today, it includes a FREE Kindle Version! http://www.amazon.com/Chasing-Rabbits-Am-Art-Attainment/dp/1502546442/ Do you find yourself with too many “to-do’s” on your list? Is your focus and energy scattered in too many places? Is your task list getting longer instead of shorter? Are you feeling stressed at not accomplishing all you set out to do? Are you peddling fast and going nowhere faster? Chasing Rabbits & I Am… is based on the adage, “if you chase too many rabbits you won’t catch any.” It connects the god/goddess “I AM” of readers with the calmness that leads to success and fulfillment –and less bald spots if you’re the sort who pulls out your hair in frustration! Available on Amazon, Chasing Rabbits & I AM… The Art of Attainment gives you the short cut to attaining what you desire. Check it out on Amazon, where Continue Reading →

Women’s Empowerment Coach Meets Hypnotherapy



As a women’s empowerment coach, there’s not a lot I haven’t seen or heard in terms of human conditions and experiences. That’s not to say I am ever bored ~I am NOT! In the approximately 3 decades of studying human nature, and offering empowerment tools of the trade, there has never been a time when I questioned my calling and purpose. It’s the energy that propels me like a feather on the jet stream, leading me to write books, conduct intimate highly intensive self-esteem bolstering empowerment groups, to work one-on-one, and to continue my education, and to add new tricks to my toolbox of self-development, and spiritual development. In a “women’s empowerment coach meets hypnotherapy” stream of evolution, I have recently become certified as a hypnotherapist. (If visions of talking like a chicken rear their ugly head, be assured, it’s not THAT kind of Hollywood-ized hypnosis techniques!) It’s been months Continue Reading →

Chasing Rabbits & I Am…


Chasing Rabbits and I Am: The Art of Attainment… is the title of my latest short… Chasing Rabbits & I Am… is based on a clever empowerment quote designed to get you to your dream goal line. The pioneer of all entrepreneurs, the late Mary Kay Ash, legendary timeless founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics, offered the success tip, “If you chase too many rabbits, you’ll never catch any.” The adage answers the question of why so many folks never attain desired goals, or more importantly, successfully get to live their true callings. Most of us are too busy chasing, but seldom catching numerous metaphorical rabbits to ever consciously place a foot on the pre-determined path of limitless potential. And the rabbit’s foot dangling from your key chain is not the answer! Nor is there a magic wand…. Chasing Rabbits: The Art of Attainment is food for thought. It’s offered as a Continue Reading →

Water Is A Metaphor For Human Emotions


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Tides vary with moon cycles, ebbing and flowing in natural harmony. But it is only when we are still and calm that true wisdom is allowed to surface. Our best answers bubble up, rising out of the sea of thoughts, but only when the sea is calm. When the tides are at their peak, and immense waves are crashing about, care must be exercised to not forget to listen.We must listen to our inner voice, and to the words of others, even those who are causing waves. It’s like that with every emotional being. We all have our rhythms. Sometimes we get caught in the fury of someone’s storm, and we may not hear their words, or heed the warnings. And sometimes, others may be drowning in the waves of our high tides. This month has been especially challenging. Remaining whirlwinds still stir remnants of a big move; dust devils Continue Reading →


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Women’s Empowerment Brings Progressive Global Change Since 1984, when I got my first client, I’ve heard various versions of the same questions and comments: Do we really need feminism? Isn’t feminism dead? Will I lose my femininity if I embrace feminism? I like being a female, so why would I want things to change? I like having guys buy dinner, so why would I give that up? Changing the constitution scares me.  In response to those questions and comments I still shudder. Women have only had the right to vote since 1920. That’s not even 100 years! Without a feminist perspective and an amendment to the Constitution, women would still not have that right. And in spite of the 19th Amendment’s guarantee “the vote won’t be denied…on account of sex,” there are still many imbalances. But here’s a much larger reason to embrace feminine perspectives of cooperation, collaboration, and receptivity. Continue Reading →

Do We Always Want Bigger, Better, Faster Transformations?


Do we always want bigger, better, faster transformations than the others are delivering? Does speed matter? Is quality lost in slow motion? Is quality lost in high speed? And is it possible that, as in the story of the tortoise and the hare, speed isn’t always the fastest way to the end goal? I’m of the mindset that there is little need for extended periods of counseling and/or coaching. Short term, intensive transformation programs have long been my style of both learning and teaching. And although time-limited psychotherapy is not the norm, it does exist. Likewise, I have witnessed some pretty dramatic results in clients who have attend 12-day gestalt training groups, high velocity transformational intensives such as VIP days, and unquestionably, as a result of results-focused intensive bootcamps. How do you learn best? Do you prefer a slower-paced investment or are you anxious to get to the meat of Continue Reading →

Confidence Does Not Come From Cosmetics


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Confidence is sexy. It’s more attractive than any new perfume, is more impressive than any new dress, and it matters profoundly to every area of your life. Confidence is Queen. It cannot be bought, and it doesn’t come in a tube or in a bottle. Confidence does not come from cosmetics or clothes or from the soaps and shampoos, and it surely doesn’t come from that designer bag or red-soled pumps. Don’t get me wrong: I adore well-made, stylish things as much as the next woman…. And it is with full consciousness that I have made some questionable, albeit emotionally driven purchases of some high-end items that have helped boost my self-image…for a minute. It’s when I watch ads on the television or in print that have clearly left little of the original model, it’s when the natural beauty is airbrushed out of the authenticity in the name of advertising Continue Reading →

Mindset Madness or Something to Consider?


I gotta ask, is it “mindset madness” or is it something to consider? We’re pretty much bombarded (or is it just me??) with messages of how critical it is to have our mindset aligned with whatever we wish to manifest. Makes sense to me. But as I was considering the power of my mind to heal this nasty virus I’ve been ravaged by over the past couple of weeks, I came to the same conclusion as Freud once had to admit to: “Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.” And sometimes, our mindset may be willing even as the flesh is weak…in my case, weakened by a virus. Is it “Mindset Madness” to explore the connection between being sick directly in the middle of a relocation when I need my physical strength most? I’ve been considering the angles of subconscious sabotage, simply being too overwhelmed to move, or sheer laziness Continue Reading →

Self-Awareness is YOUR Key to EVERYTHING


Do you believe me when I say, “self-awareness is your key to everything”? It is. And here’s a short list to back up my assertion: It’s impossible to make changes and self-improvements if you don’t have the self-awareness to recognize the obstacle or challenge for what it truly is. Without self-awareness, we would miss the subtleties that others intuitively pick up on in our body language, speech-patterns, energetic vibration, etc. Self-awareness is the starting place on the journey to truly mindful living. Self-awareness empowers each of us to make clear choices based on our skill level at any given moment, while spotlighting the areas where we can improve. Self-awareness fertilizes personal growth as we consciously decide what to release that is not serving us. Self-awareness is the root of authentic relationships with our ‘self’ and with others. Having just completed the re-certification coursework for life coaching has me considering the Continue Reading →

Number One Reason to Increase Your Confidence


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There are as many ways to increase your confidence as there are “whys” to increase your self-confidence. The number one reason to increase your confidence is because self-confidence affects every area of your life. Every area of your life either suffers from self-consciousness, or thrives with self-confidence. Think about it: Who you date, and eventually marry is a direct reflection of your confidence level. How far you go in the job arena is a direct reflection of your esteem. Your career affects your earning potential. Your earning potential affects your standard of living. Your standard of living includes standard of health care potential. Your health affects your life. The correlations are endless. Our lives are a direct reflection of our self-esteem and over-all confidence level. Look around your personal environment. What is apparent? If your personal space is a reflection of your self-esteem and confidence level (and it is), what Continue Reading →

50 Days of Focus


Want To Join Me For 50 Days of Focus? My friend, Nicola Bird is on a personal mission to help 1000 online coaches help 1000 clients each using JigsawBox. That’s a million people that get helped as a direct result of you guys.  A MILLION PEOPLE! And she wants do it in a way that allows us to start reaching that 1000 clients so that we both win  Pretty cool ehh?  Now I know that not everyone reading my blog posts is a coach, or consultant, or even an entrepreneur, but all of us might know someone who is a coach or consultant, and so rather than cherry pick, I thought a blog post was in order. Anyway, today Nicole’s going to do something she’s done only once before. Last time she did this she had to close the doors early as the team were swamped and the energy was Continue Reading →

Women’s Empowerment’s Energetic Charge


“Women’s Empowerment” carries an energetic charge as it focuses on shifting the paradigm from competition to cooperation, from closed to receptive, win-win…. Women’s Empowerment: What energetic charge does the term hold for you? Does the term bring images of suffragists to the mind’s forefront? Do you picture burning bras and posters touting equality? How does it feel in your gut? Do visions of amendments dance in your head? Is your reaction to “women’s empowerment” fear-based? love-based? neutral? Words have an energetic charge. A simple grouping of letters may cause us to take an immediate stance into defending our beliefs, our homelands, our homes, and our loved-ones. Mostly, we take a stand to defend the status quo. We refer to our “values” as the core reason for digging in. And some values are worthy of going to the mat to defend. Defending the familiar, however, is often a blind attack born Continue Reading →

Freedom, Liberation and Fear


FREEDOM & Liberation are not the same. Freedom is the result of perceived liberation. An independent mindset leads to a prioritized value of freedom, and that freedom-mindset leads to independence. There is a cycle of liberated wholeness that once started, has no end…ideally. Often, we are kept apart from freedom by our own beliefs. Being prisoners of our own beliefs and mindset is a state if imbalance that once tended to can correct our trajectory for outrageous success and fulfillment. It needn’t be a time consuming exercise to re-adjust our wings and head toward a consciously determined destination once the adjustments are made. It’s a matter of self-awareness. It’s a matter of recognizing the self-imposed limitations and making the conscious decision to take another path. FREEDOM, LIBERATION and FEAR… Over the years, I have helped dozens of women escape from violent situations only to witness a large portion of these Continue Reading →

Transformational Tools: Syncing With New Moon Cycles


Can Syncing Your Desires With New Moon Cycles Transform Your Life? The window of opportunity for harnessing Nature’s New Moon energies for transforming our lives is approximately three days. Every 28-ish days we are blessed with Nature’s gift of transformational tools: a fresh chance to draw on the energetic women’s wisdom cycle of Nature that supports us in our quest for self-improvement and transformation of any challenges we may be experiencing. It’s truly like receiving a monthly clean slate for manifesting whatever we wish to attract or alter during the coming weeks. And on a grander scale, new moon energy is the perfect free transformational tool for our evolution, and indeed, for transforming our very definition of ourselves as we consciously evolve, even far into the future years ahead. I take the New Moon energies very seriously. No, I don’t generally dance naked in the moon-less night, but I do Continue Reading →

Monday Manifesting: Are YOU Resisting?


Resistance to Success? My Mondays are fairly structured: Monday is for behind the scenes marketing; Working on up-coming campaigns; Blasting out the Money Monday blog post; Preparing the next newsletter…and doing laundry. Mondays are so filled with tasks, that it seems to me, “there is never enough time on Mondays.” I catch myself thinking and/or repeating that negative affirmation far too frequently. It dawns on me that my chant is nothing less than resistance. There’s an old message floating thru my mind’s ethers that is calling me to action. The action call is to pay attention. That’s ironic as “self-awareness” is at the deepest core of everything I promote. Yep, it’s me calling out from my spirit level, nudging me to take note that I am resisting something. But what is it that I am denying? What, exactly am I resisting with my chants and actions? To answer the question, Continue Reading →

Change Is Good


Change is Good If you’ve been paying attention, you may have noticed that my website has been under-going some extreme alterations. Just like us, this site is organic and transformative…evolving, I like to believe. In the spirit of evolution, I have been doing some serious soul-searching. As a result, this website, and indeed, my business and livelihood, are once again in that chaotic state where I feel as if the rug has been pulled from beneath my feet, not once, but at least twice in the past week. I have been working with a personal coach, and I have the utmost respect for her. With that love and respect in my heart, I gotta tell you that I have been struggling with the balance of my authentic core message, which in case you’ve missed it, has always been one of “self-esteem,” balanced against the actual outcome my clients receive, which Continue Reading →

Confidence Is Sexy: Where to Get Some of THAT!


Confidence is sexy. It’s an attractive characteristic that we all lean into. When we’re around confident people, we want some more of what they’ve got. And then ego kicks in and we either fade into fear or blossom…. What IS confidence? What does it mean to you, specifically? Are you attracted to confident people? Would others say you are confident? Do you feel confident inside? Are you aware that your self-confidence has a direct effect on your purse holdings? Your bank account is tied to your self-confidence because your confidence is the tread that runs through the fabric of your life. It runs through your business, through your relationships both professionally and personally, and it most definitely is the thread that determines whether you have progressed up the financial ladder. With this concept of how self-esteem affects every area of your life, I am offering a limit of 5 Discovery Sessions to select participants who Continue Reading →

EXACTLY What is Success as defined by YOU?


If you don’t define the details of exactly what success looks like, how will you know when you’ve achieved it? Decide for yourself what “success” looks like for you. What does “successful” you look like? What amount of money in your bank account would you define as success? Be precise. Add the details to the picture. Where do you live, what do you drive, and what does your home look like? How are you dressed? In what ways have you changed physically, emotionally, mentally? What inspires you? What gets you out of bed in the morning with an excited pull, rather than causing you to pull the covers over your head? What are you passionate about? What stops you from reaching your defined level of success? Whatever is stopping you, as much as possible, stop tolerating it. If it’s non-supportive friends and family, move on to those who best support your dreams and aspirations. As Continue Reading →

The Teacher Is The Student….


Ten years working in the trenches of the Department of Human Services, is too long to be immersed in societal ills. I became jaded, if not chronically cynical. In addition to being privy to every vile imaginings of human conditions, my job duties also placed me in a position to supervise Graduate School interns. It wasn’t until one of those interns, Margaret, brought to my attention my own warped perspective, that I was compelled to consider the consequences of too many years of working in such a supposedly diverse arena. Margaret was a traditional mother and housewife, who having raised her children, decided to return to graduate school. She was devout in her religious affiliation, and although sheltered personally from the street mire, she was unusually bright and well-versed in the ways of the world. First blush had her pigeonholed as a Stepford-type robotic wife: The little woman who lived Continue Reading →



Have you ever wanted to write a book? You know you have a story to tell, but perhaps you don’t know where to start…. I’ve certainly been there! There is so much to do and know, and mistakes can be costly. But one thing that’s clear is that in order to get your story in print requires you START. So here’s a SUPER VALUABLE piece of information! Here’s YOUR elusive starting point! You’ve seriously got to see Christine Kloser’s free training for transformational authors! (Did I mention it’s FREE!!??) Follow this link: https://tq122.infusionsoft.com/go/tae2014/DealStar Christine has persuaded an amazing group of NY Times bestselling authors, publishing industry experts and transformational leaders to GIVE AWAY their best tips, wisdom and practical advice on how to write your book and become a successful published author. Christine calls this online event the “Transformational Author Experience” – and you can participate from anywhere (no travel needed) and it Continue Reading →

Answering YOUR Calling


Answering Your Calling Every individual on this planet has one. And yet not every person has answered. Why is that? From my perspective, I see a global awakening taking place. More and more people are awakening to the truth that time is the most valuable non-renewable resource. Time is more valuable than money or riches or dream vacations or luxury automobiles. And still, not everyone invests the time to decide what the ideal life would even look like. Fewer still live a consciously chosen life. For over a decade I counseled clients as well as supervised Graduate School students of Social Work. Participants were urged to consider their strengths and passions, and to then transform those traits into paying activities. The results were phenomenal for both the students and the patrons. Without exception, fertile seeds took root and the sprouts of success were apparent. It’s no different now that I Continue Reading →

Free Is Good!


Your Journey to Wholeness Click on any or all of the links below and download the FREEBIES directly to your desktop: Confidential Self Esteem Assessment Questionnaire Gestalt Prayer Values List Top Ten Goals Life Goals for Site FREE Life Goals Download (Example) Bucket List Short excerpt from Escaping the Chrysalis Excerpt from The Flying Game Affirmations Video G-Zine Subscription (~auto-delivered)   We hope you enjoy your FREE self-improvement gifts. And remember: Gestalt Means WHOLE and So Are YOU! To purchase books click on the book covers below to be taken out of this site to Amazon.com. Thank You!   NAMASTE Enjoy. Check Out My YouTube Channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/1CoolSource for more videos. Namaste.

FREE Relationship Tools


These FREE Relationship Tools Are Not Just For Those In Relationships Every relationship throughout our individual life plays an important role, whether it be a life lesson on love or on loss. Most especially, every relationship is a mirror for self-love. How well do you love yourself? What inner dialog throughout the day, affirms the god/goddess in you? Are you tender and nurturing with you, or are you impatient and judgmental? What energetic charge are you bringing into your relationships, including into the one with your self? When you communicate, are you defensive, accusatory, gentle, patient, abrupt, condescending, passive, or aggressive? Do you know the secret to effective communication? In case you missed it, it’s the use of “I” messages.  When you use “I” instead of “YOU” in your communication, you are simply stating/owning your feelings. Saying “I feel sad,” or “I am angry,” is making a statement of how you are feeling. On Continue Reading →

FREE Values & Why?


FREE Values & Why? What are your top values? Freedom? Authenticity? Honesty? When our values are not clearly defined, when we are not absolutely crystal clear about our top value, our lives generally reflect this truth through chaos. What’s worse is when we know our values, and clearly take actions outside of the boundaries of those values. Going against the grain of one’s values, causes an internal reaction, a feeling of inauthentic behavior that will absolutely eke out in emotional response. For example, a child who has been raised to know right from wrong will feel a deep sense of regret when he/she steals cookies from the jar. Regardless of whether the child is caught or not, those instilled inner values will send a loud and clear message. That cookies will taste less delicious when tainted by remorse. The inner emotional reaction is meant to shift us back onto the Continue Reading →

Escaping the Chrysalis is Most Inspiring


   Escaping the Chrysalis is Most Inspiring! It’s truly an honor to see Escaping the Chrysalis among the Top Ten Inspiring books, a list which includes such notables as Marianne Williamson, Dr. Judith Orloff, and others. But if I’m honest, I do believe Escaping the Chrysalis is one of the most inspiring books. It is a different caliber than is my first book, Blessings in the Mire, a true story which is inspiring on a completely different level. And although Escaping the Chrysalis is in the nonfiction self-help genre, and as such, varies from my only fictional book, The Flying Game, the two are clearly different approaches in the directions of inspiration. To celebrate the notoriety of being a Top 10 Inspiring book, the publisher has agreed to let me sell Escaping the Chrysalis for a 20% discount! AND, for the first 50 copies sold, the publisher pays shipping! This deep discount means Continue Reading →

“Great Minds….”


“Great minds….” “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” Eleanor Roosevelt It’s not difficult to imagine a conversation with the insightful, Eleanore Roosevelt; perhaps over camomile tea on the White House lawn…white linens appropriately starched ~Not too much; I’m surmising the woman was not all that rigid even in terms of linens. The conversation would be about how we, together as a collective human force, can change things for the better. We would indeed discuss the global condition, but not as to whine about it; rather, to seek the solutions that come in collaboration and cooperation. A little gossip, a bit of complaining about the insolence of co-workers or of the ignorance of family members, is more than a “little bit” harmful. At the least, gossip mongering is doing nothing to positively alter the course of the globe, or of the participants. Eleanore’s words got Continue Reading →

Mother Trucker


Mother Trucker   Throw Back Thursdays: Me on the day, having completed the necessary hours and experience, I received my “A” Status Teamsters Driving Status. #ProudMotherTrucker #TeamstersUnion #local222 #empowerment I only wish the photographs had been in color. The PINK hard-hat and matching fingernails were a rare visual at a time when Teamsters Unions were known as “traditional male” employers. But as a single mother of three children under the age of four, I would have done just about anything to feed my kids, and driving ~even the BIG RIGS, is something I enjoy. By the way, this is NOT the largest piece of Caterpillar equipment I ever drove, but it was the one I drove most often. The lessons of empowerment would be ridiculously long to list here, but in the abbreviated edition, I’ll share that I learned as much from jealous wives and girlfriends as I learned about operating equipment. I expected a Continue Reading →

Authenticity Is Something You Wear


Authenticity is a trait that’s easily spotted. It’s your second skin. It’s also very attractive, in the sense that others are attracted to the genuineness of authenticity. It’s also apparently a rare and desirable characteristic. The old adage, “Fake it till you make it,” has helped many people get through very challenging situations. Walking into new situations such as starting a new job, mingling with strangers, facilitating a workshop, or that number one fear of public speaking, can cause us to feel insecure. In an attempt to neutralize our nervous energy, we forge ahead by portraying a forced persona of confidence. This kind of “faking it” can be a valuable tool and may help us to cope in uncertain situations. I prefer to see it as facing the fear and doing “it” anyway. It’s that NIKE add that says, “Just do it.” But, here’s the thing we have to watch out for. Sometimes Continue Reading →

FEAR & Self-Loathing VS FREEDOM?


Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. Marianne Williamson from A Return Continue Reading →



Authenticity, it’s a word I’ve heard thrown around a LOT lately; Maybe because of an overdose of so-called reality shows that mire the airwaves in anything but authentic behaviors. Authenticity is one of my top values, second in line behind freedom. In my estimation, it (authenticity) is also at the very core of: success; fulfillment; quality relationships; career success; self-acceptance, thus self-esteem; and pretty much any area of life I can come up with. And yet, authenticity is more often than not, either tossed aside in exchange for some concocted image or suffocated beneath layers of poor self-esteem. And there it is: self-esteem. If you’ve been here before, you certainly have an inkling that this website is all about self-esteem. If you’re ever curious about why and how self-esteem came to be the foundation of my business and of my books, I’ll be happy to share the dirty details of how it Continue Reading →

The Mind Body Spirit Connection


Why are humans walking around in pain? Gestalt means whole, and results in near-miracles by focusing awareness on alignment of mind, body, spirit connectedness. Most humans are walking around in pain due primarily to feelings of isolation. Separation on a globe filled with over 7 BILLION people seems like an oxymoran, and yet here we are: Skyrocketing suicide and homicide rates; ridiculously high self-medication taking place; fractured families; anger-management issues; a seemingly endless list of human sufferings. There is a GAP so wide, that many people are bailing out. Consciously, or subconsciously, there are multiple means to ensuring one leave sooner than later. Consider the socially acceptable ways of committing suicide: Smoking; Drug Use; Sugar in-take: Poor diet; Poor sleep habits; Exposure to stress; Reckless driving; Poor hygiene; Sedentary lifestyle; Cutting; Alcohol Addiction; Death by cop. Suicide and homicide are the same coin. Suicide is pain turned inward. Homicide is pain turned outward. Both are as a Continue Reading →

Calling or Career? Day 4 of 31 Day Blog Challenge


There is a distinction between a job and a career, and there is still a greater distance between those two words and the word calling. I live my calling. Each morning when my eyes peek open, there is perhaps a millisecond of time that elapses before I jump out of bed, grab a cup of coffee, and head to my calling. I know it’s a calling as opposed to a job or career because: I can ‘work’ at my calling for hours upon hours and still be excited to give more. I am passionate about my purpose. I am fully present when I am in the arms of my passionate calling. I get annoyed when others attempt to interrupt my flow (that NEVER happened when I had a job!) I have to pry myself away to take vacations. I get truly excited as I contemplate the next client, book idea, campaign Continue Reading →

Women & Onions ~ Day 3 of 31 Day Blogging Challenge


Gone are the days of women looking at other women with a turned-up-nose expression of smelling onions. Gone are the days of women looking at other women as if other women are the competition, are the enemy.  No longer is the facial expression that of smelling dog poo on a shoe. Indeed, it is a time in her-story when women unite, and the Earth’s axis shifts with the feminine perspective; that perspective being based on nurturing, receptivity, love, and fairness. No longer is the paradigm one of ego, brute force, or competition. Words, not swords and bullets and missiles and bombs are the tools for bringing peace. Respect, not coercive manipulation, is the model from which the world blossoms into a whole, balanced, encouraged oneness. Hey, it’s my dream and I can decide what it looks like, and it looks like an inviting place to be. There is no fear in Continue Reading →

Self-Awareness: It’s The New Black


You probably catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror several times each day. But how often do you actually stop and take a close look? Oh sure, you notice if your pants are the ‘right’ length, or if your shirt is too wrinkled, or if your sweat is showing. You probably notice each new wrinkle and pimple within moments of their arrival. You may even get close up as you pick and pluck. But how often do you really stop to see the whole you in that mirror? I’ve seriously had group participants run from the room, screaming in pain, rather than look at that face in the mirror. Their face. The one they live with day after day. Seriously. I do not chase them. Because even with the running and screaming, there is a little awakening taking place. The internal shift has begun. And many times, they return; Continue Reading →

Self-Esteem Is Key To Everything In Life


It seems as if everyone is looking outside of themselves for the answers to their personal problems and challenges, when the better option is to develop self-awareness and bolster self-esteem. The concept of looking outside for the answers in akin to approaching a stranger on the street corner and asking him to fix your broken zipper. In other words: It’s absurd. And yet the truth is, folks like me make a lot of money by facilitating the process of taking participants out of pain and into potential by providing self-esteem tools and techniques. And that is a very different angle to the ask-a-stranger means of healing oneself from the accumulated pains of life. It’s also quite different from asking a friend or loved-one for the answers to your problems. Friends and relatives are often wrong as they have their own projections that blur their vision and many friendships are quickly lost when Continue Reading →

Journey to Wholeness


A 4 WEEK GUIDED JOURNEY TO THE GIFT OF YOU What pain are you in? What outcome would you hope for? What’s that outcome worth? Are you ready? If not, what will it take to get you ready to transform into your full-winged potential? Journey to Wholeness is a very limited elite experience for no more than twelve individuals per quarter. It consists of a personal assessment to determine the “fit” into the program, and if accepted, includes four intensive weeks of transformational facilitation. If you are ready to transform into the life you were born to experience, the first step is to fill out an assessment. To request an ASSESSMENT Questionnaire for consideration of entry into the Journey to Wholeness program fill in the form and the assessment link will be emailed to you: The Journey to Wholeness is a fast paced course which is not open to everyone. Continue Reading →

The “YOU” Benefits of Gestalt


Let’s face it: FEW folks know what “gestalt” is, so how could they possibly know how impactful it is? With that in mind, I decided to make a list of some of the “YOU” benefits of Gestalt. First, “gestalt” means “whole.” It follows then, that each of us were born whole and complete, and were then systematically taught, conditioned, indoctrinated, culturally immersed, and otherwise melded to fit certain standards and cultural molds, and to subscribe to a determined set of social mores. We bought into the biases of institutions and families, and of the political culture in which we were born. In other words, we are each a product of our chance of birth. And have no doubt, it was chance. Gestalt starts at the beginning. By re-visiting the perfection of your human organism at birth, we can observe that infants get their needs met without manipulating or posturing. A Continue Reading →

Getting To Your Divine Outcome


I’ll share some personal notes here, and tell you that I have not always been at the top of the mountain. My life, as is true with most humans, has had pits and hills, and has been laden with what I like to now call, “learning experiences.” We’ve all had them, the experiences that at the time seemed so un-survivable, or that threatened to de-rail us completely. Maybe you were de-railed for a time. Maybe you still are reeling from an experience that left you wondering “What the heck was that about?” Or maybe you’ve chosen to not look for the lesson in the experience, because, you surmise, it would be too painful to look back or re-live. Instead, under the guise of survival, you look the other way. Life is experiential. And when we live in acute self-awareness of the experience, of whatever experience we are in, as a Continue Reading →

When you reach that place where most people would give in and give up…


…reach deep within, and know your worth, your value, and your power. Yep. A friendly reminder to keep progressing. Escaping the Chrysalis               The Flying Game              Blessings in the Mire Shadows Attached: Mad Woman Poetry ~Kindle Edition   Namaste.

Gestalt As You Are…


(…Perfect.) Gestalt literally means whole form. As a therapeutic term, gestalt is intent on the wholeness and balance (homeostasis) of the human organism as nature intended. Regardless of how you see yourself, you are whole and perfect in your humanness. If gestalt were a party, it would be a come as you are party. Masks would be placed aside. The naked truths of you, stripped of cultural mores and trends, ruffles and feathers would be exposed; the black and the white, the dark and the light would be fully present, and accepted. Warts, farts, wrinkles, zits and all, you would be, we would all be, the proverbial belle of the ball. We would know the additional cliché of unconditional love. The caveat is, the love would stem first and foremost as self-love. There is a natural cycle of human development that begins always with awareness, specifically with self-awareness. Only when one stops Continue Reading →

Life Is The Picture of Cumulative Choices


…and What Does Your Life Look Like? Life is a Series of Decisions Whether consciously or otherwise, at every moment of any day, we are making decisions. Even apathy and inaction are choices, decisions made to take no action. Life is the sum of choices we make thru planning and taking action, or by apathy and/or ignorance. Each of us has the opportunity to make the best use of our time, or to allow time to flood by as we wear out the sofa on the sidelines of our own lives. (Scroll to the page bottom or continue reading for a FREE download tool for Goal Setting .) Which person are you? It’s a decision you can make this second. Choice is organic, changing, expanding, contracting; you can alter your life choices at any time. Your life is a result of the decisions you make, or don’t make. It seems Continue Reading →

The Importance of a Secure Self-Esteem


“If I have lost confidence in myself, I have the Universe against me.” Emerson Secure self-esteem is more important than an Ivy League education. This is a debatable concept, certainly, but debate or not, here are my thoughts: Lacking self-esteem has a correlation to lack of ambition, and ambition is an important element to reaching the any desired target. Severely lacking in self-confidence leads often to lethargy and even depression, thus it is not congruent with staying on course towards achievement of goals. A poor self-image opens the doorways to gang involvement as the participant seeks recognition from outside of his/her self. A poor self-esteem blocks the flow of any ability to manifest greatness, if only due to a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom. It’s hard to formulate a clear plan towards personal development and fulfillment when one is buried beneath the weight of lacking self-confidence. No amount of education can Continue Reading →

The Other Butterfly Effect


The following is a story that has been told and retold countless times. And yet, here it is again, as timely as ever: Noticing a butterfly struggling to break free from the cocoon, a gentleman, thinking himself helpful, snipped at the cocoon with a tiny pair of scissors. Although the butterfly was indeed freed, its tiny wings were shriveled, and its body was swollen making it improbable that the butterfly would ever take flight. As this condensed version turns out, the insect spent the remainder of its days crawling, never having gained the strength necessary in order to take flight. Nature’s plan was, as the butterfly squeezed through the tight cocoon opening, the fluids would be forced from the torso into the wings. Once freed, the butterfly could have easily flown. Nature knew better than did the kindly gentleman. This parable is two-sided, as is true with much in life: Continue Reading →

Money Monday: Dreaming and Manifesting


Sweet Dreams Are Made of These: You might have heard of a little film called, “The Secret” that was first released back in March 2006. You might even have bought the book that was based on the film. You fell in love with the very concept of having the ability to turn your dreams into reality, simply by tapping into The Secret. You’ve thought good thoughts. You’ve adopted a positive attitude. You’ve channeled all your positive energy into manifesting. You believe in your heart of hearts that you deserve great things. You’re trying to will into existence. You think the universe should serve you abundance on a silver platter. I don’t mean to be harsh…but why aren’t you living the life of your dreams yet? Learn why over here… http://bit.ly/1hSwGa3 Critical details were deliberately left out in The Secret; exact steps and techniques that are required to make it work. But chin up! I have, together with other experts Continue Reading →

Finding My Life Path In His Death


“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~ Mark Twain …so what have you done? Today is the birthday of my deceased brother. He died in 1977, his life cut short by “unknown, natural causes.” He was 22. Autopsy results showed a “strong heart, clean lungs, no blood clots, no aneurysms, no drugs, no alcohol,” in short, no reason. He simply died in his sleep. We were best friends, Tom and I. We were two years and two days apart in our births, and so we shared our birthday each year. It was wonderful. As children, we had someone to play with, and to confide in when we grew older. But we didn’t grow Continue Reading →

The Flying Game Holds Truth for All of Us


There is a bit of Stella Harris in all of us. Seemingly out of nowhere comes a hand that, at first thru fifth glance reveals no winning cards. Our subjective realities are altered then and there; everything changes. Kelly Clarkson’s lyrics “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger,” play in my head, telling me that others too, have experienced events that required drawing on more inner strength than we knew we had. Thus is the transformational current of The Flying Game. It’s a fictional self-help book with a secret nod to The Wizard of Oz as the inner wisdom that ultimate saves all of us from those blessed “learning experiences,” arguably random or destined occurrences that on the surface are too much to bear. But bear we must, and from such perseverance human character is undeniably forged and personality more deeply colored. As a celebration of the irrepressible human spirit Continue Reading →

Money Monday: Bypass Your Subconscious Gatekeeper


Your subconscious mind has a gate keeper. This is a survival means that keeps out a lot of bad stuff. Unfortunately, over time, this gate keeper gets more and more strict about what gets inside. It’s fine for a toddler to absorb information with the speed of Niagra Falls, but it’s another for an adult to be open to all the environmental factors that surround us. It’s this gatekeeper that allows for children to learn language, and that same keeper makes it a bit more difficult for adults to learn a new language. Stella Harris of The Flying Game, found a way to bypass her gatekeeper. Now you can too! Imagine being able to allow in a fresh perspective of who you are at a subconscious level. Imagine being able to free yourself from the pains of the past and move into your truest power. One of my absolutely most favorited self-help Continue Reading →

Feeling alone, and finding the blessings in your life mire, even when it hurts like hell


Following the death of my son, I fell into a resonance of aloneness. It’s an illusion, of course, as we are all connected regardless of how separate we may feel. Others tried to help, tried to reach out and bring condolences and casserole dishes, but I was alone in my experience and wanted even the kindest of visitor to leave before they even arrived. Eventually, I simply refused to answer the door or the ringing phone. I was busy. I had important business to attend to, and it consisted of immersing in the mire of death in order to make sense of the senseless. I had no energy reserves for entertaining those with goodwill and good intentions. That solo period was necessary for my introspective exploration, soul healing, and as a part of the natural grieving process. It was a time for reading, pondering, challenging the status quo, and for Continue Reading →

Is It Spring/Fall Yet? (Please give this time to load)


For anyone in my neck-of-the-woods here in North America, there’s a solar eclipse that isn’t visible. Still, I trust it was very cool for those who were able to look at Nature’s rare sun-block.there’s a full-solar eclipse (I’ve included a short video below for your viewing pleasure). There’s New M00N energy for planting the desires you intend to bring to fruition. Today, to celebrate that new moon energy and the first day of Spring, I am spending the bulk of my thoughts and emotions psychologically planting and planning on the fruits of the very near future. I am putting my intention down on paper, although honestly, there has been a young dove in and out of my courtyard all day, distracting me with her cooing and swooping. She’s considering turning a hanging planter into a nest, and I’m hoping she figures out soon that it’s not a good idea. Years Continue Reading →