Ten Inspiring Books by Women & for Women!
It may be April Fools Day, and I may not be able to stop grinning, but it’s NO JOKE!
Aspire Magazine just released its “Top 10 Inspiring Books” list–which includes MY BOOK, Escaping the Chrysalis! Ten inspiring books written by women & for women; each dedicated to inspiring, empowering & supporting you along your journey! I am honored to be included in this circle of feminine wisdom along with Marianne Williamson, Dr. Judith Orloff, MD., Shann Vander Leek, Saskia Roell, and other spirit led women. All ten of these inspirational books are the perfect additions to your transformational and personal development library! Check it out: http://bit.ly/Top10_April
Escaping the Chrysalis: http://www.amazon.com/dp/0988533421
Escaping the Chrysalis is a reference book for life. It’s a comprehensive volume that can be read cover to cover, or each individual chapter is written as a stand alone, so you can start anywhere of interest. It is the book that promises to soon be the most dog-eared on your bookshelf!
Even if you don’t feel ready to invest in a comprehensive transformational program, get the life manual, Escaping the Chrysalis. It’s a great place to start the shift that will place you squarely on the track to success and fulfillment.
And if you are ready to take that next step on the journey, watch this YouTube video:
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Authenticity is a trait that’s easily spotted. It’s your second skin. It’s also very attractive, in the sense that others are attracted to the genuineness of authenticity. It’s also apparently a rare and desirable characteristic.
The old adage, “Fake it till you make it,” has helped many people get through very challenging situations. Walking into new situations such as starting a new job, mingling with strangers, facilitating a workshop, or that number one fear of public speaking, can cause us to feel insecure.
In an attempt to neutralize our nervous energy, we forge ahead by portraying a forced persona of confidence. This kind of “faking it” can be a valuable tool and may help us to cope in uncertain situations. I prefer to see it as facing the fear and doing “it” anyway. It’s that NIKE add that says, “Just do it.”
But, here’s the thing we have to watch out for. Sometimes when we are feeling stressed, our nervous behaviors can suddenly show up as if they are on steroids. An example of this is a person who and is typically extroverted may over compensate, and is then perceived as loud and boisterous when in a stressful and unfamiliar situation. Others may get the impression that this person is arrogant, cocky, or generally inauthentic. This may be completely untrue or not; regardless, if we don’t manage ourselves during these types of situations, we too could give the wrong impression of not being authentic or genuine.
3 Common Missteps People Make When Feeling Self-Conscious or Nervous
1. Making fun of yourself. Although it’s common to poke fun at ourselves, use this kind of humor sparingly. Self-deprecating humor is not self-esteem building behavior. Leave these jokes to the stand-up comedians. If you constantly downplay who you are, people will absolutely perceive you in the same way you represent yourself. Remember, whatever you speak, think, or dream about, you ultimately bring about, so consistently speak approvingly of yourself, and since we know that what we are projecting is our self-perception, also speak kindly of others.
2. Bragging or dominating the spotlight. When speaking with others, do not dominate the conversation. Confident people share the spotlight by showing interest in other people. Listen. Really listen, with your whole attention on the person speaking. You’ll be astonished at the results of authentic communication and connections being created.
3. Gossiping. There’s an easy trick for breaking the nasty gossip habit. The next time you’re tempted to say something derogatory about someone, imagine the person standing next to you. How would your words make that person feel? How would you feel if those words were directed at you? Your mother taught you, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it.” Your mother was right. And anyone who has ever played the game, Telephone, can attest to the fact that the facts are wrong by the second repeating of the gossip. Have some class and don’t gossip. And if you’re tempted, bring to your mind’s eye the image of Eleanore Roosevelt saying, “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” Step consciously into the realm of “great minds.”
Next time you feel nervous and less than confident, pay special attention to your behaviors when fueled by nervous energy. And, if you catch yourself committing any of the missteps above, take a deep cleansing breath, and exhale most of your fears. Repeat the process three times, and reconnect with your authentic self – not with your “fake-it-til-you-make-it” self. It shows. You’ll be rewarded in kind for your rare and precious authenticity.
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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. Marianne Williamson from A Return to Love .
It’s likely you’ve heard or read that quote by Marianne Williamson a half-dozen times or more. It’s not fresh news. It is, however, at the core of what this website, and I offer.
Do you know at a soul-engraved level that your light, and the light of every other soul walking the face of the Earth, is meant to shine brilliantly, without excuse for who you are being. With that said, how few of us are actually consciously choosing who we are being?
Have you ever asked yourself who you are in your perfect vision of you?
Have you ever even allowed yourself to dream about who you are in your limitless potential being-ness?
What physical response does your body offer when you dare to dream of you, improved? Does your heart race? Do your palms sweat? Does your head shake “no” to the thought? Do you find your breath stopping in your chest? Your body is telling you the truth. Are you paying attention? What’s it saying?
Have you ever asked yourself if you are truly happy? Perhaps you don’t need to ask; maybe it’s written all over your life.
Have you ever dared dream and then write the goals ~both short and long-term, that must be met in order to reach some predetermined destination? Do you even have a clearly defined destination?
If you are not happy with your current situation, who is to blame? Is there a layer of self-loathing that needs to be peeled back in order to expose what has kept happiness at bay? Does the idea of peeling back layers send you to cower beneath the blankets of your room? The layers are blankets. Those layers were placed, one atop the next, to protect you. But do you need all that armor now? Does it support you in this life?
What needs to change in order for you to prosper, excel, be fulfilled?
Where will you be in 6 months? 12 months? 3 years? 5 years? 10? What would YOU like to change? If not now, then when?
When you are not ready to take the first mindful step into your future, is it because you fear the unknown? My grandmother said, “…better the devil you know….” I disagree. The devils and demons we know can be erased through self-awareness and enhanced self-esteem. It’s only the habit of fear that keeps anyone stuck in the mire of the past. It’s facing the fear and doing it anyway that builds self-confidence one step at a time.
If fear and self-loathing are setting you apart from a life of freedom to choose who you are, and live the life you decide to live, it’s time to decide* and take the next step. When you are ready, schedule an appointment with me to see if we’re a “good fit.” If not, we part friends, a little richer in spirit from the connection.
START by downloading this Confidential Self Esteem Assessment Questionnaire
Free Gestalt Prayer
~As always, with love and light and gratitude,
*”DECIDE” means to cut away, as in cut away other options. When you decide to change the path you’re on, you are cutting away other options, such as failure and boredom. Decide. It’s empowering.
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Authenticity, it’s a word I’ve heard thrown around a LOT lately; Maybe because of an overdose of so-called reality shows that mire the airwaves in anything but authentic behaviors.
Authenticity is one of my top values, second in line behind freedom. In my estimation, it (authenticity) is also at the very core of: success; fulfillment; quality relationships; career success; self-acceptance, thus self-esteem; and pretty much any area of life I can come up with. And yet, authenticity is more often than not, either tossed aside in exchange for some concocted image or suffocated beneath layers of poor self-esteem.
And there it is: self-esteem. If you’ve been here before, you certainly have an inkling that this website is all about self-esteem.
If you’re ever curious about why and how self-esteem came to be the foundation of my business and of my books, I’ll be happy to share the dirty details of how it came to be. But really, the whys don’t matter. It is the what is that is Queen of this Universe.
We may be invested in why something is the way it is, and we may spend long hours wallowing in our belief that the whys matter. Whys tend to get in the way of moving ahead, of letting go of that which does not support the fulfillment, so why bother to swim in that pool when you could be spreading your wings and taking flight?
If owning your authentic voice is something which you are ready to embrace, and if you have come to the place where you are ready to release the past and own your wings, use the contact forms either at the tabs above this page or at the right page bottom pop up. There is NO CHARGE for scheduling a short session to see if we’re a good fit. And if we’re not, refer to the Gestalt Prayer.
- Have you taken the time to discover your top values?
- Do you know your values effect everything you do?
- Did you know you can download a tool for FREE to help you find your values? Values List
Disowning one’s authentic self is the ultimate giveaway of personal power. And it is deadly. Seeking external validation leaves anyone vulnerable to judgements from others. The authentic self feels secure from within, and not from the opinions of others. Owning the WHOLE/GESTALT of YOU is the most authentic, empowering step you can take to fulfillment.
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There is a distinction between a job and a career, and there is still a greater distance between those two words and the word calling. I live my calling. Each morning when my eyes peek open, there is perhaps a millisecond of time that elapses before I jump out of bed, grab a cup of coffee, and head to my calling. I know it’s a calling as opposed to a job or career because:
- I can ‘work’ at my calling for hours upon hours and still be excited to give more.
- I am passionate about my purpose.
- I am fully present when I am in the arms of my passionate calling.
- I get annoyed when others attempt to interrupt my flow (that NEVER happened when I had a job!)
- I have to pry myself away to take vacations.
- I get truly excited as I contemplate the next client, book idea, campaign and such.
- I have, in some form or another, been practicing my calling all of my life.
- I can find the (forgive the plug for my 1st book) Blessings in the Mire.
- I see how all my experiences are incorporated into this calling.
- I can no longer imagine myself doing anything else.
- I love my little stacks of ideas and notes that I lovingly refer to as “genius piles” (and clutter is definitely against my nature!)
- My mind goes a ba-zillion miles an hour when I consider how many positive ripples I can create before I die.
- Almost everything on my Bucket List is connected to my calling.
- Every book I read, every class and course I attend, is on subject with my calling.
- Practicing my calling energizes, rather than deplete me.
- I feel purposeful.
- I am happy.
These are just a few of the affirming conditions that let me know I am on target. And quite frankly, it has not always been like this, at least not on the surface. But when I look back, even to early childhood, I see that all my experiences have led me to this decidedly divine place in my life. Regardless of how nefarious, of how confusing, of how rewarding, of how sobering, all my life events are the rungs that have brought me to this place. The transformation is a continual process. And in every way, every single day, it, and I, get better and better.
Are you living your calling? If so, that’s terrific! And if not, take a moment to envision what that looks and feels like. What do YOU look and feel like when you are living your calling? Where do you live? The word decide means to cut away other options; what did you have to cut away in order to be living your divine calling?Did you have to leave others behind in order to break out and into your true calling? What had to change for you to give yourself permission to be your authentic, full-winged self? What choices had to be made? Are you happy? Who do you effect by living your calling? Are you proud to be here, living your calling? In six word, create a tag line that defines you as you are living your calling.
If you haven’t yet determined your authentic calling, I can only suggest that you take the time to sit quietly with your journal and thoughts. Think over your life experiences: Regardless of how painful or rewarding, what are the highlights of your life to date? Have you downloaded your FREE values form and identified the ONE VALUE that you would go to your death to defend? If not, get it and complete it. Without a clearly defined set of values, it’s much more difficult to define your dreams and set your craft in the direction of your chosen destination. As you sit with your clearly ascribed values, contemplate the ways in which your life experience has enriched you. I’ll be honest here, although I had written for several decades, it was not until the death of my son, that my hands finally went to the keyboard to write that first book. And as horrific as it was, the experience of such great loss brought me many rewards. It also inspired a non-profit dedicated to the prevention of adolescent suicide, the ripples of which are endless. This is not something I could have put on a vision board. It is not anything my radar would have foreseen. Nonetheless, the pieces all come together to create a stronger whole; a gestalt which is richer and wiser than before. Does this mean I am happy that my son died? Oh HELL no. I would give ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to have him here. I would cheerfully give my life for him to live. But that’s not the cards I have left to play, and so, it is the catalyst to my embracing the raw authenticity of who I am, and of who I am being. Death of a loved-one provides a level of consciousness about love that many will never be blessed to feel. It also opened me to the rarity of time, and so I use mine more wisely now.
If you are looking for a place to START your transformation, follow the hyperlink to your FREE START download. Yep, it’s free. Because I want everyone to spread his or her own wings by owning the whole/gestalt of the ‘self’. I wish for you, FREEDOM, as that is my top value; the one I will die to defend.
Clicking the book cover takes you to Amazon to purchase.
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You probably catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror several times each day. But how often do you actually stop and take a close look?
Oh sure, you notice if your pants are the ‘right’ length, or if your shirt is too wrinkled, or if your sweat is showing. You probably notice each new wrinkle and pimple within moments of their arrival. You may even get close up as you pick and pluck. But how often do you really stop to see the whole you in that mirror?
I’ve seriously had group participants run from the room, screaming in pain, rather than look at that face in the mirror. Their face. The one they live with day after day.
I do not chase them. Because even with the running and screaming, there is a little awakening taking place. The internal shift has begun. And many times, they return; when they are ready, they come and face the inner demons and then release those demons (who turn out to be mostly just kid stuff, after all), and then they go on to blossom into spectacular splendor.
I’m the first to admit that it’s tough sometimes, to really make eye contact with the ‘self’ because we are seeing that ‘self’ with all the filters, biases, and guilt of our entire life to date. And admittedly, courage is a rare commodity, but when that courage is mustered and the face is…well, faced, there is a magnificent transformation that takes place.
Here’s the thing: Your personal power is wrapped up nicely in the ability to see you.
Yep. Self-Awareness: It’s the new black.
Today, I encourage you to take a fifteen-minute time out from life.
Go to the bathroom, lock the door, and gaze lovingly into your own eyes. And if not gazing lovingly, at least make it a point to make extended eye contact. Give yourself permission to see all of you.
As you look, really see with your entire whole/gestalt self: How do you feel? Are you finding it difficult or easy to make eye contact with you? Do you use your eyes as deflectors? Is so, what are you deflecting? What do you not want to see? What are your hands doing? Are your fists clenched or open? Are your palms dry or moist? “See” your heart: Is it beating rapidly or is it a typical rate? Is your jaw slack or tense? How’s your overall posture? Are you standing straight and tall or hunched with the weight of your world? Can you see your sense of humor represented by your whole/gestalt reflection? Where do you wear your battle scars?
Before you leave that mirror, name five things that you love and admire about your reflection. Pay attention to how you’re feeling as you seek out those five adorations. Just notice. This is not a self-abuse experience. This is a self-awareness experience.
Notice without placing judgments on the experience.
Notice: Is it easy to come up with your list of five attributes? Is it challenging? How does it feel to contemplate your greatness? Are you still making eye contact?
Are you breathing? Take a deep breath now, and exhale fully through your open mouth; let out some of the stress.
Consciously acknowledging your feelings, physically and emotionally, removes much of the charge and lessens the physiology. In other words, when you notice yourself feeling nervous in any given situation, taking note of the nervousness is like a release valve that allows some pressure to escape. Noticing is the place to take stock, and adjust the wings when necessary to take you to your chosen destination. (You do have a chosen destination, right?? If not, skip to the bottom and fill out the form asap! This is urgent! You must have a decided plan for your destination. Now. Right now.)
Self-awareness is the start of self-fulfillment.
Are you ready to take that first step into your Divine Wholeness? If so, or if you’re on the fence about blossoming into your full-winged splendor, fill out this form. A Confidential Self-Esteem Assessment will arrive in your email box, allowing you to answer the questions in the privacy of your own home. Even if you don’t return the assessment, rumor has it that the act of answering the questions creates a shift in awareness. If you do return the assessment, you will receive, upon request, a Discovery Session where we ‘meet’ on the phone to determine if we’re a good fit. Not everyone will be accepted. And that’s okay. In fact, it’s perfect.
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It seems as if everyone is looking outside of themselves for the answers to their personal problems and challenges, when the better option is to develop self-awareness and bolster self-esteem. The concept of looking outside for the answers in akin to approaching a stranger on the street corner and asking him to fix your broken zipper. In other words: It’s absurd.
And yet the truth is, folks like me make a lot of money by facilitating the process of taking participants out of pain and into potential by providing self-esteem tools and techniques. And that is a very different angle to the ask-a-stranger means of healing oneself from the accumulated pains of life. It’s also quite different from asking a friend or loved-one for the answers to your problems. Friends and relatives are often wrong as they have their own projections that blur their vision and many friendships are quickly lost when an ego investment gets in the way.
What is meant by “ego investment”?
The friend and/or loved-one takes it personally when you don’t do as they say. The friend’s ego is invested in whether or not you do as they say (and on their time-table, by the way). If you do as they suggest and it all works out, the friend can feel like your savior. If you do as your friend suggests and it doesn’t work out, there may be some resentments on either side. If you don’t do as you were advised by the friend, the friend’s bruised ego gets in the way of your transformative process. None of these options can be good for the friendship.
Here today, I offer you a gift. Today I give you the key to the universe and to releasing all your pain; I give you the key that leads to enhanced self-esteem, and to your transformation into your full-winged potential.
Are you ready? Here it is, the key to life:
Your best answers are inside.
Why? How could this claim that your best answers are inside possibly be true? Here’s the short list of reasons that will back up my claim:
No one knows you like you know you.
Yep. Nobody knows you like you know you.
Albert Einstein said something to the effect of we can’t fix what’s broken using the same mindset with which the problem was created. This is true; however, we can shift the mindset. And we can bolster your self-esteem by utilizing highly effective, multiple gestalt-based self-esteem building tools such as self-awareness techniques that create rapid results.
That’s what I am here to do. I facilitate transformational shifts. And I don’t take it personally if you don’t invest in yourself. Our friendship doesn’t suffer when you don’t take action.
I am here to help YOU shift, if that is what you choose.
Your transformation is all that is needed to bring you out of the pain you are in. When you are ready to consciously begin the process of leaving the pain and traveling to the potential, send an email to ; and then, a confidential self-esteem assessment will arrive in your email box. At your leisure, complete the questionnaire. Even if you never return it, you may receive a positive transformational shift simply as a result of having taken time to answer the questions. When you are ready…. (Now, is a good time to take that first, free, courageous step into your wholeness.)
Gestalt means whole, and so too, are you whole and complete.
You simply need to re-member the parts into a cohesive whole empowered you.
*How much is an investment into you, into your transformational life worth to you?
*Where will you be in three months if nothing changes?
*Where will you be in one year if nothing changes?
*Where will you be in five years if nothing changes?
*Where, in your dream of dreams, do you desire to be?
*If not now, then when will you decide that you are worth investing in?
*If you’re telling yourself that you “can’t afford it,” what fear is really being masked by that claim?
*What can you immediately do to start the process towards your fulfilment?
Might I suggest that simply by reading to this point, your progressive shift in consciousness has begun. And the next step is to simply shoot off an email and request your Confidential Self-Esteem Assessment. Even if you never return it, answer the questions and contemplate you. You deserve to thrive. And to make it super-duper no-brainer simple to START the process, not only am I offering the Confidential Self-Esteem Assessment, I am also giving away a FREE Module One of the START Program. COMPLETELY FREE. Go to the START PAGE and claim your FREE GIFT! The START program is the place to START to build your self-esteem. But before you do that, do yourself a HUGE favor and send for the Confidential Self-Esteem Assessment. Send an email request to . Together, these two FREE self-esteem building tools can get you started on your journey to limitless potential.
You deserve to live your best whole/gestalt life.
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A 4 WEEK GUIDED JOURNEY TO THE GIFT OF YOU
- What pain are you in?
- What outcome would you hope for?
- What’s that outcome worth?
- Are you ready?
- If not, what will it take to get you ready to transform into your full-winged potential?
Journey to Wholeness is a very limited elite experience for no more than twelve individuals per quarter. It consists of a personal assessment to determine the “fit” into the program, and if accepted, includes four intensive weeks of transformational facilitation. If you are ready to transform into the life you were born to experience, the first step is to fill out an assessment.
To request an ASSESSMENT Questionnaire for consideration of entry into the Journey to Wholeness program fill in the form and the assessment link will be emailed to you:
The Journey to Wholeness is a fast paced course which is not open to everyone. Only 4 participants will be allowed into the individualized 4 week program at any given time. To request a copy of the curriculum, send your request by filling in the above form, and under the “comments” section write “request curriculum.”
The standard cost for Journey to Wholeness is $997. The March Special is for $497 with the caveat that participants agree to provide a testimonial at course end.
Use the form above to request further information.
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If for any reason you are not accepted into the Journey to Wholeness 4 week intensive, a full refund will be made.
Please note: The Confidential Self-Esteem Assessment is FREE of charge, and is a great tool to fill out regardless of whether you enter into the Journey to Wholeness 4 Week Intensive. By filling in the above form, you will be provided the assessment to complete at your leisure. Additionally, there will be a FREE teleseminar on March 1, 10:00 am PT.
Register for teleseminar HERE: Journey to Wholeness Teleseminar
Journey to Wholeness is an entry-level four-week course into the immersion of self-esteem building.
NOT EVERYONE WILL QUALIFY for ENTRY INTO the PROGRAM.
Our time, both yours and mine, is finite. Time is a non-renewable commodity. There is only so much to go around, and when it’s gone, there’s no way to get it back; we cannot simply turn the hourglass upside down and expect more time. With that in mind, forgive the brutal honesty of this assertive statement that not everyone will qualify. To ensure my clients receive all they deserve, I commit to only four individuals per month. Generally the cost for my time is just under 1K per month for 3 phone calls and four weeks worth of home study. This allows me time for hosting teleseminars, facilitating groups, conducting one-on-one counseling, and crafting fresh materials for you. It also allows me time to interact and network and continue the pursuit of other studies in higher education, and finally, it allows me quality precious time with my loved-ones, as well as time for self-care, and most certainly, for writing new books.
Here’s the deal:
- I will never hunt for clients.
- I will never hound anyone to join any of our many faceted events.
- I will pretty much always be here for you when I’m needed.
- My premise is that given the tools, you’re responsible for your magnificent outcome.
- Moving from PAIN to POTENTIAL is not only POSSIBLE, it’s MOST PROBABLE.
- Moving from PAIN to POTENTIAL is a rapid permanent process.
- Once you’ve transformed that bell will not un-ring.
To request your FREE Confidential Self-Esteem assessment Questionnaire for consideration of entry into the Journey to Wholeness program fill in the form:
Do fill out the form, and when the assessment arrives in your mailbox, download and print out the form. Then fill it out. Even if you never return the completed form, do download it and answer the questions in the privacy of your own home.
It’s been reported that huge transformational shifts take place just as a result of answering the questions.
- If not now, then when?
- If you do what you’re doing and nothing changes, where will you be in three months? five years? ten years?
- How long will you remain in the pain?
- What must happen to get you to take the first step towards your limitless potential?
- Take a page from Nike, and Just Do It!
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With that in mind, I decided to make a list of some of the “YOU” benefits of Gestalt.
First, “gestalt” means “whole.” It follows then, that each of us were born whole and complete, and were then systematically taught, conditioned, indoctrinated, culturally immersed, and otherwise melded to fit certain standards and cultural molds, and to subscribe to a determined set of social mores.
We bought into the biases of institutions and families, and of the political culture in which we were born. In other words, we are each a product of our chance of birth. And have no doubt, it was chance.
Gestalt starts at the beginning. By re-visiting the perfection of your human organism at birth, we can observe that infants get their needs met without manipulating or posturing. A baby cries when he/she is hungry, cold, wet, messy, in need of love, etc. An infant doesn’t look around the room to see how he/she compares to others; a child doesn’t really care if his/her socks are pink or blue or match their diaper; you’ll never hear a baby wondering if her/his hair style is on-trend.
And contrary to some of the recent televised pageants, babies don’t need lip gloss and rouge to look their best.
Babies, before they are tainted by society, family, and peers, are the most authentic creatures on the planet. We can learn a LOT by watching them.
For the next 30 days, rather than finding an infant to emulate, decide instead to become acutely self-aware. Notice everything about you. Hear each word, and note the cadence of every sentence you utter; pay attention to how you feel physically and emotionally under any situation; notice how you use your eyes when you pass someone in the supermarket; feel what happens to your palms, heartbeat, breath when you are among strangers, and then again when you are among loved-ones; notice you spectral mood swings and the energy you bring into the room at any given time.
Do not judge. Just pay attention to how you feel, physically and emotionally.
When you look in the bathroom mirror each morning, notice if it is awkward to make eye contact with yourself. Do you look away? Do you use your eyes to deflect whatever you don’t want to see?
I’ve had clients run (yes, literally) screaming from the room rather than look themselves in the mirror.
LOOK. Look and really see. Give yourself permission to observe your whole self as you are being reflected back.
And when you are ready, make arrangements for a Discovery Consultation. It’s FREE. And it’s (generally speaking), painless.
Here’s that list of “YOU” benefits of Gestalt:
• Skyrocket your self-esteem because self-esteem affects EVERY FACET of YOUR life.
• Communicate effectively and assertively to get your needs met and not be victimized.
• Release internal blocks to success and make-way for fulfillment.
• Heal your inner child and forgive your trespassers and more importantly, forgive YOU.
• Attract opportunities and be secure enough to take advantage when they come around.
• Achieve goals that you really desire.
• Attain your goal weight and health and balance.
• Attract healthy balanced relationships with your mirror reflection.
• Release victim behavior and never again be at the mercy of another.
• Let go of scarcity mentality and prosper because it is your optimal state of being.
• Interpret dreams for valuable content and use that information to your benefit.
• Define your life on your terms. Period.
• Own your personal power, because dis-owning it is ugly and ineffective.
• Allow the flow of wealth and abundance and circulate the energies.
Remember, “Gestalt” means “whole” and so are you, once you re-claim the disowned portions of your whole self.
The outcome being offered here is FREEDOM. Isn’t that really what we’re all seeking?
Humans are meant to live in homeostasis (balance). Gestalt gives you to tools and techniques to thrive in whole aligned balance of mind, body, and spirit.
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The assessment is a questionnaire of just over 50 questions, and can be answered in the comfort of your own home, at your leisure. And even if you don’t return the questionnaire, do sign up to receive the download link. Many have professed great consciousness shifts simply for having answered the questions.
Don’t doubt that your transformation can be rapid and effective and also be the chasm between then and now. YOU can shift your life in real time, and you don’t need to invest thousands of hours into counseling. I’ve gone before you, and I am a product of what gestalt techniques can do.
Self-awareness means consciously choosing to create the life of one’s desires.
What do you desire?
What are you passionate about?
What would you choose?
I hand you the keys to life. When you are ready to open that door to all things wonderful, fill out the form and embrace your whole/gestalt self.
If you’re still here, I invite you to download this AWAKEN JOURNAL and see where it leads.
It’s a $9.99 value, which may be priceless to you. And it’s FREE today. AWAKEN Journal
Remember, there’s no obligation to return the questionnaire. All that is asked of you is that you take the time to mindfully respond to the questions.
~Love & Light.
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I’ll share some personal notes here, and tell you that I have not always been at the top of the mountain. My life, as is true with most humans, has had pits and hills, and has been laden with what I like to now call, “learning experiences.” We’ve all had them, the experiences that at the time seemed so un-survivable, or that threatened to de-rail us completely. Maybe you were de-railed for a time. Maybe you still are reeling from an experience that left you wondering “What the heck was that about?” Or maybe you’ve chosen to not look for the lesson in the experience, because, you surmise, it would be too painful to look back or re-live. Instead, under the guise of survival, you look the other way.
Life is experiential. And when we live in acute self-awareness of the experience, of whatever experience we are in, as a whole, we are happier and more authentic. And the raw truth is, denial never propelled anyone to fulfillment. Just sayin’….
That word, “authentic” has been used a LOT lately. I’ve heard self-professed gurus spewing the importance of being authentic, even as those same folks are being inauthentic. Regardless of how authentic or inauthentic the guru, the message is a pure truth:
Living in one’s true authenticity means never apologizing for your life
being “authentic” is to not live small.
If you are done living “small” I can show you the path to the top of that mountain, for I have gone before you. And believe me, that overall experience has given me many life lessons and much wisdom to share.
Marianne Williamson says, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure,” and I believe it.
Are you thru playing small? Are you thru with pretending that you are less than “powerful beyond measure”?
Today, take five or ten moments in a quiet place with a pad of paper and pen (or more perfectly with your journal), and answer this question:
What outcome to my life’s challenges would I like to achieve?
Really sit with this. Breathe deeply in through your nose and exhale fully out through your open mouth. Repeat this breath exercise three times to relax into this authentic moment of truth. Allow the question to swirl around the space in your mind, and then settle into your solar plexus: What outcome to my life’s challenges would I like to achieve? Be aware of your body now. Feel the question in your body: What outcome to my life’s challenges would I like to achieve? What do you feel physically at this moment while you entertain the question? What outcome to my life’s challenges would I like to achieve? Stay present with the physicality of this.
- Notice your heart’s beat (Rapid or slow/normal)
- Notice your palms (Dry or sweaty?)
- Notice your body: do you experience pain anywhere?
- Notice your breathing (Shallow or deep/relaxed)
- Notice your face (Tight or relaxed?)
- Notice your spine.
- Notice your forehead.
- Notice your jaw.
Without judgment, just notice. Simply be with your body. Let it/you speak to you with the physical senses. Be aware. Be very self-aware.
Place your focus on your crown chakra, at the top of your head. Notice the top of your head. Now consciously relax the top of your head. Good. Now, move consciously down to your face, and relax your forehead, and then relax your mouth and jaw. Great. Focus now on your neck. Relax your neck. When your neck is loosened, move on to your shoulders and spine. Notice your shoulders and spine, and consciously relax them. Move your awareness to your heart. Send love to your heart. See your heart being fed a supply of pink light energy, and see your heart pump that pink light energy throughout your veins. Now place your focus onto your solar plexus, at the space around your umbilical cord scar. Envision an umbillical cord connected to the universal flow of light energy. See, with your mind’s eye, the energy flowing into you, coursing throughout your physical and light bodies, and moving stagnant energies. This flow releases any stuck inner blocks to your success and fulfillment. Feel the flow of universal life blood energy. You are healing emotionally and physically as this source energy circulates, purifies and rejuvenates.
Ask the question: What outcome to my life’s challenges would I like to achieve?
Answer the question. You have your own best answers. Trust you, and answer the question. LISTEN. Hear your own inner wisdom. Write down the answer.
That may sound odd coming from a life consultant. But refer to paragraph one where I clearly state there have been experiences and lessons learned. And it may seem counterintuitive for me to tell you that you, not I, have your best answers. Afterall, that sounds like I’m turning away business. And business is my livelihood.
I’m not worried.
Here’s why I’m not worried about turning away business: I KNOW that once you’ve learned the Gestalt Techniques that I can teach you, you will learn to trust you to give you the best answer. When that happens, you will, just as thousands of others have, refer your best friend, lover, co-worker, etc. When you experience the outcome to your life’s challenges that you would like to achieve, others will recognize the shift. They will ask you for the secret of your transformation, and you will turn them on to Gestalt Techniques, and to me.
You see, together, we will explore the outcome that you really desire. Just guessing here, but I’ll wager that what you’re seeking is an emotion.
- Maybe you want to feel at peace.
- Perhaps freedom is the challenge you’re seeking to experience.
- Maybe it’s love that seems to be the far away goal.
It could be a better career, and that’s not an emotion. There is, however, an emotion attached to the desire of having a better career. It could be a sense of accomplishment, or freedom to make other choices, or the status that re-affirms your personal worth…. There is always an undercurrent of emotion to any desire, and when we uncover that emotion, things start to really happen. You own your wings.
You are kindred with the butterfly. Every butterfly MUST struggle to break out of the chrysalis that wraps it so tightly, because the struggle actually, literally, gives the insect the strength to eventually fly free. If, thinking yourself helpful, you were to clip the cocoon from the butterfly, the butterfly would never fly, and would die on the ground. Seriously. And so would you. Imagine if you had never experienced loss. I have lost a child, and although it was the most brutally painful experience of my life, and honestly, was one which I would not have bet on surviving, I have HUGE amounts of strength and wisdom as a result of that struggle to survive. The degree of love I felt as pain from losing my son is untouchable, and is the most responsible for my enlightenment. If, following the death of my father when I was only 18 months old, I had not been raised by a single mother, I would have missed a lot of strength-building exercises that built character and taught me that girls can be strong and competent. Had I never loved and lost, I would not have experienced the importance of true self-love. Had I not found my inner strength to leave a bad marriage, I would not have gone on to learn the gestalt techniques that turned my life around, and empowered me with full-winged self-esteem.
Whatever the outcome you are seeking, gestalt techniques, my guidance, and YOU can get you there.
When you are ready, we can schedule a fifteen minute conversation to determine if we are a good fit. And if not, we’ll part ways, no worse for the wear and tear.
(FREE Downloadable Gestalt Prayer here.)
Gestalt means ‘whole’ and so are you. With a secure self-esteem in place, there is nothing you cannot accomplish.
Self-esteem directly effects:
- your income level
- your love life
- your interpersonal relationships
- your family interactions
- your career choices
- your wealth thermostat
- your health and wellness
- your education
- your personal expansion
- your experience of being human
Even if you’re not ready to schedule that fifteen minute interview, you may want to start by reading Escaping the Chrysalis: Introduction to Gestalt Techniques for Self-Esteem Transformation. There are some excerpts of the book available on the Free Pie Page. Or click the book cover below to order from Amazon.
When you are ready to experience your wings, when you are in enough pain that you simply must take action to transform into the beautiful full-winged version of the whole/gestalt you, fill out the form and request your fifteen minute discovery call.
(FREE Downloadable Gestalt Prayer here.)
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…and What Does Your Life Look Like?
Whether consciously or otherwise, at every moment of any day, we are making decisions. Even apathy and inaction are choices, decisions made to take no action. Life is the sum of choices we make thru planning and taking action, or by apathy and/or ignorance. Each of us has the opportunity to make the best use of our time, or to allow time to flood by as we wear out the sofa on the sidelines of our own lives. (Scroll to the page bottom or continue reading for a FREE download tool for Goal Setting .)
Which person are you? It’s a decision you can make this second. Choice is organic, changing, expanding, contracting; you can alter your life choices at any time. Your life is a result of the decisions you make, or don’t make. It seems obvious, yet how few realize and then respond accordingly to the limitless potential this information offers?
Life is a decision. It’s a series of decisions.
That statement doesn’t mean I have control over all the events that happen in my life, and on the fringes of my life. It does mean that I always have control over how I respond to any given stimuli. Consciously responding with thoughtful consideration is a higher road choice of empowerment than is over-reacting in a barbaric, non-contemplative knee-jerk reaction.
During the past few months, I have made some rather large life changes. I’m now more committed than ever to consciously control the experience of living. Vows to do things differently, to actually consciously, boldly choose and follow my path have been tested; in some cases, the flight plan has been altered and my wing flaps adjusted to stay my chosen trajectory.
In spite of life occasionally getting in the way of aspirations, it’s rewarding to stay oddly positive about all the events taking place. Simultaneously committing to find the goodness, or at least the valuable lesson in every episode despite how nefarious or taxing is liberating.
When a close friend died, for instance, rather than allow sorrow to derail me, I dug into my psyche in order to unearth the gift in his passing. It sounds impossible, right? Not only is it possible; it is crucial. Yes, I mourned for an appropriate time, but I found a way to use the emotion as fuel for publishing a poetry book that had long festered on a rear burner.
The first time I was instructed to “find the gift” in a particularly painful event, I lashed out against the offensive suggestion. As time passed however, I did discover that every seemingly negative situation, even the death of a loved one, has another side that glitters. Patience and pondering have reinforced the idea, and now regardless of how nefarious, automatically makes any event just a little easier to swallow.
Discipline is Not Drudgery
One of my current commitments is to write each day at least 1000 words. As a result of the discipline required to keep that pledge, I’ve successfully completed a nonfiction manuscript of over 150,000 words. The first hundred thousand words came quite quickly and with relative ease. It is the tedium of editing those words, of choosing only the most valuable and precise sentences, of throwing out my not-so-well written prose that brings the yawns. But I’ve made a commitment to a certain lifestyle, and editing must be done; it’s another life-lesson of balancing the fun with the chores. It builds character; frankly, how few of my friends, relatives and acquaintances have the tenacity and dedication to commit to sit in one place for hours each day and write a book?
The commitment to take the reins of life is liberating, and accomplishing the daily goals is a self-esteem building activity. Without making the choice to take control and to follow thru each day, there is no progress; there are only thoughts that float out-there somewhere in fantasy, never to come to fruition.
I admit that I’m a big picture sort of writer. I love the concepts, get ‘great’ ideas on a continuous basis, and start a LOT of articles and books. I’m decidedly not the sort of person who will count beans, or manicure individual grass strands for a living. The small stuff is important, and I am seriously repelled by the small stuff. Let someone else sweat that manual labor. I’m off writing the big words, honing down the large word counts, and fertilizing the creative concepts that come from meditative moments in warm scented baths. But cultivating the concept of disciplined goal setting and daily self-navigation means I get thru the minutia as well as getting to enjoy the warm scented baths.
Writing book proposals and query letters is instrumental in getting published, and so I consciously make a decision to perfect my shining letters to agents and editors, though I don’t pretend to like it. Not for a second do I consider that I have any innate strength or talent in query writing, although with all the practice, I probably am perfecting the process even as I wince. It’s part of my conscious commitment to take more control of my life that demands I write those queries, send them out to the perfect parties (In bean-counter style, having researched and determined just who those parties might be), as I envision at least one of them actually reading my application, and with excited enthusiasm.
My decision to live consciously has also included growing a thicker skin. I’m collecting ‘rejection letters’ on a regular basis (again) and have gathered them into a rather large volume that sits on my desk. At any time that my ego may attempt to get too big for her britches, I can just pull out the equalizer and cut that ego back down to size. It doesn’t happen often. Life most Earthlings, I wrestle with the balance, the homeostasis, the fodder which provides the substance for the books I write.
I’ve also designed a little book for writing down nice things, complements that others give me about my writing. I write the date, the circumstances, the quote, and the person’s name (if I have managed to get it). This when, where, what and who bolsters me when things get to me. When I’m feeling especially vulnerable, or depressed, or even hopeless, I pull out the collection of positive comments from admiring readers, college professors, and even from elementary school teachers.
“Keep writing. You’re good.”
Many times, I have reread that dog-eared praise as it was scrawled by an English Professor across my first completed manuscript. She was a dear to read it, but the praise was frosting and a cherry on top! I now have it in writing, from a professional, “Keep writing. You’re good.” It’s not an Academy Award. It’s not the Pulitzer Prize, but it’s still enough encouragement to keep my seat in the seat.
Fast forwarding from the time those words were first scrawled, in the spirit of pay-it-forward, I have said those identical words to aspiring writers. Who knows, maybe my name will end up in their little book of complements too for time when their ego needs a little TLC.
Where are your decisions taking you? Whoever you are, and whatever your aspirations, commit to the practice of perfecting. Whatever you do, keep doing it. You’re good at it.
~With Love and Light,
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Sweet Dreams Are Made of These:
You might have heard of a little film called, “The Secret”
that was first released back in March 2006.
You might even have bought the book that was based on the film.
You fell in love with the very concept of having the ability
to turn your dreams into reality, simply by tapping into The Secret.
- You’ve thought good thoughts.
- You’ve adopted a positive attitude.
- You’ve channeled all your positive energy into manifesting.
- You believe in your heart of hearts that you deserve great things.
- You’re trying to will into existence.
- You think the universe should serve you abundance on a silver platter.
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“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~ Mark Twain
…so what have you done?
Today is the birthday of my deceased brother. He died in 1977, his life cut short by “unknown, natural causes.” He was 22. Autopsy results showed a “strong heart, clean lungs, no blood clots, no aneurysms, no drugs, no alcohol,” in short, no reason. He simply died in his sleep.
We were best friends, Tom and I. We were two years and two days apart in our births, and so we shared our birthday each year. It was wonderful. As children, we had someone to play with, and to confide in when we grew older. But we didn’t grow much older together. And truthfully, I still miss him on “our” birthday. And I can’t help but wonder who he would be, had he lived more than those two short decades. What would he have done with his life?
Tom’s death was the beginning of my search for spiritual sense. Afterall, without a just cause for his death, how could I possibly believe in God, or Source, or in any label one chooses to adhere to a version of Higher Power. And if there indeed was a God, how and why would he/she take my brother for “no reason”?
All these years later, I have such perfect sight to see what went before. It is my gift of his death, to have found my path to life. Without the brutal realization of mortality, it is doubtful I would have ever begun that journey inward, to that place inside that is so decidedly beyond “the safe harbor.” And so I take only a moment to share my appreciation for the greatest gift that Tom left me: The strength to “catch the trade winds,” and to travel deep inside, and to unquestionably question everything. That’s where the answers lie.
“Explore. Dream. Discover.” Seems like a perfect mantra for life.
(Clicking the cover takes you out of this site and into Amazon.com)
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Your subconscious mind has a gate keeper. This is a survival means that keeps out a lot of bad stuff. Unfortunately, over time, this gate keeper gets more and more strict about what gets inside. It’s fine for a toddler to absorb information with the speed of Niagra Falls, but it’s another for an adult to be open to all the environmental factors that surround us.
It’s this gatekeeper that allows for children to learn language, and that same keeper makes it a bit more difficult for adults to learn a new language.
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“All our progress is an unfolding, like a vegetable bud.
You have first an instinct, then an opinion, then a knowledge as the plant has root, bud, and fruit.
Trust the instinct to the end, though you can render no reason.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
It’s a hard life today. Had he lived, he would be forty. He lived to 21.
Suicide: It coats the tongue like rancid lard and heavy sand; makes it hard to swallow. Harder to think.
Suicide. It has the sound of pest control, but it is so different when I feel the word in my heart. It lacks color when I see it in my mind’s eye. Suicide. Grey. Dim. Dull.
Never believe there is no energy attached to words. The energetic charge of suicide is palpable. It causes other to back away as if it will get on them if they linger too long. Suicide: It separates the friends from the acquaintances. It’s a word laced with a thick cord of fear. It causes others to judge.
I was one of those judges, prior, of course, until the karmic slap woke me to the vast truth; caused me to re-evaluate and re-calibrate, and most certainly, to explore where the word led.
What ifs blossomed like popcorn popping on an apricot tree. Insane. Surreal. What if I had been there? What if I had known…? What if?
What ifs are a dreadful waste of time and effort. What is, is all we have. There’s a testament of staying present in suicide, and in what is.
The journey led inward: The search for sense from senselessness. My curious mind had to know what lays beneath, before, behind the curtain of social mores and judgements and culpability. And it led to HELL. A deep pool within, deeper than the layer of sanity protects us from the sheer craziness that could be. Led to a pool where the dead stir putrid swirls ~ripples radiate, seep out into daylight. And although it’s a cold, dead place, it burns with reality. Dead. Your child is dead. And no religion, no spirituality, no prayers, no magic cures can change this brutally heart-ripping awareness.
Life went on. Shoppers shopped at Walmart. People kept eating. They went to movies, and fell in love and laughed. And my universe was not aligned with the laughter. Not for many months would I hear the foreign sound of laughter escape my mouth.
But it came. My purpose unfolded with the inner journey that brought me into the mire and back out to the light. Like a tight bud opening to the light, but not until the bulb had been in the dark for the necessary time, I opened to the experience….
I heard the laugh. I looked around when I first heard it. Like a stranger on-looking, I heard the laugh come out and it was clear that it had been too long that laugh had been squelched.
Suicide. It was not the end, but was the beginning of my journey inward to the authenticity of me. And this is really hard to convey, but I learned long ago that there is a gift in every episode of life, even in the nefarious. And so, I look back and see the jewel: I wrote a book (my first, not last) that purged my insides out and today heals others; I started a non-profit for suicide awareness; I enlightened masses; I saved some lives along the way and healed some broken hearts; I learned valuable lessons of non-judgment and survival. And the greatest gem of all, is that of love. There is no deeper love than that from a mother to her child, and to lose a child reveals a love deeper than imaginable, unless you’re a member of the club. I pray you never are. And yet, to be deprived of this unfolding of purpose and calling would be worse, I sense, than death.
Our subjective purpose transcends time, matter, and perhaps, even reason. And yet, our purpose is like a secret treasure that we excavate and reveal over time. Everything, every event, every one has a place in the universal flow. Even the gritty lard that coats my tongue.
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