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Is Happiness a Choice?

The question is an authentic one: Is happiness a choice?

My cherished friend and bestselling publisher, the incomparable Linda Joy released Inspiration for a Woman’s Soul: Choosing Happiness featuring the soul-inspiring stories of 27 amazing women who share their intimate stories of transformation. And because “happiness” is my favorite subject I gotta say that my favorite part of Choosing Happiness is that after the end of each story, it includes Reflection Questions which will empower you to integrate the vital lessons of each woman’s journey into your own life. Grab your copy today:

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Happiness Questions to ask yourself:

Q: Was there a pivotal moment in your life when you realized that your happiness was an internal choice that could be made despite your outside circumstances?

My answer is that there have been many pivotal reminders throughout my life, reminding me that I alone have the choice to “be” happy regardless of the external indicators and environment. Most challenging, was after my son died. It took me a full eighteen months to search through the inner mire and find my spirit again. And in the end, it was THE most pivotal moment of my life, spiritually. It was also the event that led to the first book I ever published, Blessings in the Mire: A True Story of Miracles & Recollections (the one that still gets 5 Stars on Amazon!) In that regard, along with the obvious life changes that come with the blessed curse of the Reaper, the shift to my life was as the hand of God picking me up from one path and sitting me down on another in a split second where I had to make the decision to live, or to die. Since I am writing this, you know which path I chose. There is happiness in even the most nefarious event, if we in fact, choose it. It has to do with letting go of the attachment to a specific outcome, or in the case of the loss of a loved one, it has to do with realizing that the length of grief is not indicative of the amount of love felt. We truly must release the grip that death leaves our hearts with, and embrace the love.

Q: How do you remind yourself that happiness is always within and catch your footing in those whirlwind moments of life that can throw us off balance?

My honest answer to this is, Nature. I have learned to walk barefoot on the Earth and allow Gaia to ground and simultaneously replenish me when I am feeling weak and human. I have a special rock I go to, to have my “God Talks.” It is where I am most connected and clear and it is where I spend much time in tranquil contemplation.

Q: What is your personal definition of happiness today?

This question made me laugh a little, because the truth is, my “personal definition of happiness” is different today than it was a decade or two ago. As I have matured at considerably slower rate than the speed of Merlot, my perspective has wound around the “now” as being the place of happiness, as opposed to the things that once seemed to bring happiness. Life becomes simple when we cease seeking externally for what has been within all along. That’s what my “personal definition of happiness is today.” Just being in my own authentic skin, free of the energies which do not support my growth and spirit is my definition of happiness. Time on the rock. Which translates to self-love.

Q. Share three things that bring you happiness.

3 things that bring me happiness are peaceful moments of reflection, the love I feel for special family members and friends, and a sense of purpose when my client “gets it.” There is no greater warmth to my heart than when my client suddenly lights up and announces, “I get it!” And to that I say, “That’s right. You do. It’s always been inside.” Quite honestly, it is at these moments, that all is most right with the world. When her light shines from the inside out, and the energy is palpable, I am as happy as she is.

I want to express thanks to my friend, Publisher Linda Joy, for these inspiring questions! And I invite you to share how you choosing happiness moment in the comments below.

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May happiness spring from your core and shower you with love and abundance. xox


2 thoughts on “Is Happiness a Choice?

  1. Shanon, thank you for you sweet and powerful message. What rang truest in your comment may have been the part where you consciously claim your “quiet time,” because the next parenthetical remark of “as a busy mom,” reveals that because you claim that special time for nurturing you, you are undoubtedly a better mom! It can be such a challenge to walk that balance beam as a “busy mom,” and when you practice self-care in any form it benefits everyone in your circles. You are doubtless a GREAT mom and friend. So tell me, where is your favorite place in Nature these days? Is there a special tree that calls you, or a stretch of beach somewhere? Tell me more! 🙂

  2. I enjoyed learning more about you Jan. I am so glad you chose to live and thrive under such devastating circumstances. I also prefer spending time in nature to clear my mind and lift my spirits. As an adult, I realized my happiest times as a child were spent exploring the woods or walking on the beach – so I intentionally do more of it now. I also find so much joy in the little things, like spending time with friends and family and my quiet time (as a busy mom, whenever I can find it!). 🙂

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