Do you admire risk takers, especially when they win or give a thrilling performance? There’s something exciting and attractive about someone who dares takes a chance; the person who has the courage to start a business in a down economy is someone who gets my attention. In someone else’s perspective, a football team that goes for the two point conversion to win the game might be more of a turn on, or perhaps those that put it all on the line to get what they want are ultimately the ones that get respect.
These folks all seem fearless….
- How about you?
- What was the last bold risk you took?
- What risk did you not take that maybe would have paid off?
Don’t judge yourself. Just notice….
If this is true for you, then you might want to invest a minute to understand fear better.
Fear, you may have heard, is often described as the acronym for False-Evidence-Appearing-Real. Or, as a colleague recently joked, “F*k everything and run.”
Maybe she’s on to something, because fear does elicit the “fight, flight or freeze” response.
Think of it this way: In our mind, we have conjured up some evidence that we label as “real.” Our “real” fear is that we might believe that we will fail and that we will be embarrassed, or that we will lose everything, or that we will be rejected, or worst of all, that we will feel ashamed. This level of anxiety is a fear-based reaction in full gear throttle.
We may fear losing beloved connections if we get too successful. This is a bigger one for women than it is for men. Women are taught to not be in full-forward success mode if it means making a bigger picture for themselves than for their partners. As women, we are taught to not outshine our potential mates: “Better to dim that brilliance than to scare of would-be suitors,” is the message learned. And so, many women get caught in a place where seeds of hidden resentments flourish….
Here’s the “real” truth: Every action is a shoot from either fear or love. Everything.
So the next time you feel fear, trust that a love-based response is right around the corner.
And here’s a secret to conquering fear: Face it. Embrace it. Embrace fear and it loses its power. It loses its ability to stop you. Fear loses when you see it as what it is. At best, it’s an illusion of thought, and when you recognize your infinite spiritual nature as opposed to your physical nature, there is nothing left to fear.
Each time you “feel the fear and do it anyway,” you build confidence. When you can look in the mirror and smile, knowing that you courageously stepped into your power by owning the fear -by facing the fear and moving forward anyway, you grow a few notches.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin
Be courageous and blossom into your wholeness.
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