Confidence Tip #5 Small Steps = Big Wins

Small Steps Make For Big Wins


Have you ever noticed that when your confidence is low, you downplay your strengths and overemphasize your flaws? Or, that when you feel small, you act small, or not at all? When this happens your self-esteem and confidence plummets and the cycle sends you spiraling downward until you feel as if you are a loser – a lost cause.

That simply is not true. You have gifts, attributes, and skills that are uniquely yours. And if you look back over your life, you will find that you have experienced many successes, and positively impacted others’ lives.

If you ever feel yourself minimizing your positive traits and maximizing your flaws, then take these steps for reversing the cycle and getting back into the winner circle.


Step 1 – Celebrate your wins. By recognizing your successes, whether it’s facing a challenge, making a difficult phone call, confronting something or someone, or cooking a juicy turkey, giving yourself a pat on the back for your successes regardless of how large or small, will quickly boost your self-confidence. So with that in mind, whenever you win, make the time to stop, celebrate, and savor your success.

Step 2 – Learn from your mistakes. If we are trying, we will stumble and make mistakes, especially when learning or trying something new and unfamiliar. Learn to look at mistakes as valuable learning tools in the education we receive whenever we seek to expand our horizons. These tools/mistakes indicate that we actually have movement and progress; that we are in fact making an effort, and are moving forward, even if there is a detour. Thus, the more we try something new, the more mistakes (learning opportunities) we are bound to have in our history of what not to do.

People who do not make mistakes are standing still in so-called “safe” territory, or their familiar (misconstrued as comfortable) routines. I don’t know about you, but in my estimation, living in such a groove/rut is a mistake. No risk means no gain.

Step 3 – Keep trying. I appreciate the tenacity of people who achieve their goals, not stopping until they’ve reached the finish line. When we want to win big, we must be willing to miss, learn from the attempt, and try again. With persistent and determined action, we’re guaranteed an eventual win. So if you falter, vow to pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and get going again. And the next time you feel your confidence slipping,  remember to celebrate, learn, and keep at it. At the goal line, you will be glad you did.

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