FEAR & Self-Loathing VS FREEDOM?

Path You Are On

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. Marianne Williamson from A Return to Love .

It’s likely you’ve heard or read that quote by Marianne Williamson a half-dozen times or more. It’s not fresh news. It is, however, at the core of what this website, and I offer.

Do you know at a soul-engraved level that your light, and the light of every other soul walking the face of the Earth, is meant to shine brilliantly, without excuse for who you are being. With that said, how few of us are actually consciously choosing who we are being?

Have you ever asked yourself who you are in your perfect vision of you?
Have you ever even allowed yourself to dream about who you are in your limitless potential being-ness?
What physical response does your body offer when you dare to dream of you, improved? Does your heart race? Do your palms sweat? Does your head shake “no” to the thought? Do you find your breath stopping in your chest? Your body is telling you the truth. Are you paying attention? What’s it saying?

Have you ever asked yourself if you are truly happy? Perhaps you don’t need to ask; maybe it’s written all over your life.

Have you ever dared dream and then write the goals ~both short and long-term, that must be met in order to reach some predetermined destination? Do you even have a clearly defined destination?


If you are not happy with your current situation, who is to blame? Is there a layer of self-loathing that needs to be peeled back in order to expose what has kept happiness at bay? Does the idea of peeling back layers send you to cower beneath the blankets of your room? The layers are blankets. Those layers were placed, one atop the next, to protect you. But do you need all that armor now? Does it support you in this life?

What needs to change in order for you to prosper, excel, be fulfilled?

Where will you be in 6 months? 12 months? 3 years? 5 years? 10? What would YOU like to change? If not now, then when?

When you are not ready to take the first mindful step into your future, is it because you fear the unknown? My grandmother said, “…better the devil you know….” I disagree. The devils and demons we know can be erased through self-awareness and enhanced self-esteem. It’s only the habit of fear that keeps anyone stuck in the mire of the past. It’s facing the fear and doing it anyway that builds self-confidence one step at a time.

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If fear and self-loathing are setting you apart from a life of freedom to choose who you are, and live the life you decide to live, it’s time to decide* and take the next step. When you are ready, schedule an appointment with me to see if we’re a “good fit.” If not, we part friends, a little richer in spirit from the connection.

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~As always, with love and light and gratitude,


*”DECIDE” means to cut away, as in cut away other options. When you decide to change the path you’re on, you are cutting away other options, such as failure and boredom. Decide. It’s empowering.


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