Why Are We Here?

(you and me, at this specific time...)

Women show up with a pervasive and deep longing for something more....

You probably know how many women struggle with feelings of not being “enough…”  
And maybe YOU are one of these women going thru life with a constant heaviness in her heart,
and a pervasive low-level depression that begs for answers to the question:

Is this all there is?” 

That’s why I’m here. I can show you how to find the “more” that is missing from your life….

What I do is provide the time-tested feminine principles, proprietary tools, and expert guidance to enliven, inspire, and empower you to live the life you desire and deserve. Because YOU ARE ENOUGH!

What sets me apart from other coaches and consultants is:

  • Proprietary Confidence-Enhancing Tools to fill your self-love toolbox and transform your life
  • 3+ Decades of empowering women via groups, consulting, & customized coaching
  • International Best-Selling Transformational Author, twice
  • Inspirational Books Award recipient
  • Winged-Women™ Academy Founder
  • Winged-Women™ Business & Life Coaching CEO

And so, I’ll ask you:

Are you fully engaged in your life with a passion and insight, and with an inspired fervor of excitement that entices you out of the cocoon of your bed each day?

Or conversely, like too many women, do you feel an emptiness inside, even though you’re apparently well-put together on the outside?

Are you living as your most authentic, fempowered self?

Or are you harboring hidden resentments because you give so much and receive so little?

Are you feeling content? happy? satisfied, really?

I ask, because there are no accidents.

You are here because the Universe brought us together…

With that in mind, I encourage you to keep reading, because on this page are solutions to your emptiness. This site is all about giving you what you need to transform your pain into power, struggles into strengths, and insecurities into self-confidence.


Every post, page, offer, product, and service has roots in cultivating self-love. Because after decades in the self-development field, I can say without hesitation:

Every single person I’ve coached has life challenges with an ugly underbelly of lack of self-confidence,  feelings of being un-worthy, and of not being deserving at the source. 

Women's Empowerment is the Umbrella

Topics addressed are multiple, and include (as examples):

  • How your Confidence and Self-Worth affect every area of your life 
  • Moving beyond mindset for creating the life you desire and deserve
  • Abundance, Money & Prosperity blockage & flow as symptoms of self-worth 
  • Discovering your Passionate Purpose to enliven you
  • Learning to shift from a masculine paradigm and into feminine power principles that align with your heart, values, and sensibilities…

You may have not noticed that the list of topics can all relate back to self-esteem…to that previously mentioned pervasive feeling of not being “good enough….”

That’s because, “how you do anything is how you do everything....”

In other words, if you’re not particularly confident, that sense of, “not being good enough” seeps into every area of your life.

Your level of self-confidence directly impacts everything from your love life to your finances to your health and wellness to your career and opportunities, friends and family…. 

To be clear: 

You will never create the extraordinary life you long for, until you breakthrough the old (ill-fitting) paradigm, and begin to consciously create from a place of divine wisdom and fempowerment inside of you. 

Your transformative change comes through embracing your feminine power source.

It does not come from outside of you; it comes only from within.

When you build a life on your personally held values, the results are extraordinary. And that will happen only when you commit to caring as much for your self care and nurturing as you do for others.

Learning to love yourself is at the core of every success. You cannot keep hiding behind excuses, blaming others, or blaming Life itself for your failure to create the life you long for.

If you’re not enjoying the life you desire, it can only be that inside of you, you don’t feel worthy and deserving of that enlivening. The core of you still thinks she is unworthy, maybe even unlovable.

And as long as that inner patterned belief is navigating your life, you will not break through to the level of living that you only vaguely dare dream of experiencing. And by the way, because you have no frame of reference, you cannot even come close to envisioning what’s truly possible for you when you finally break through the blocks that are stopping your from having the life you desire. It’s greater than you can imagine.

But until you turn inward and face those blocks, no amount of affirming, envisioning, crafting vision boards, or working on “mindset” will help change your life. Until you connect with the source, identify the patterns, and re-write the script of your life, nothing will change.

That means you have some work to do, some patterns and truths to face, and you cannot do it alone. In fact, if you could have done it alone, you would have done it by now, and you haven’t.

Here’s the thing: 

No part of your life is not touched

by how you feel inside about WHO YOU ARE 

There is no way to separate the areas of your life, no way to isolate or compartmentalize the pieces of YOU. You are whole/gestalt. You are the sum of all your pieces, mind-body-spirit whole…gestalt.

And that translates to say that when you up-level your confidence, your entire (whole-gestalt) life is up-leveled. There can be no other outcome.

THAT’s GREAT NEWS. It means that when you breakthrough that ONE BIG PATTERN, the pieces all shift, and your life is transformed….

Here’s What’s True:

You CAN be guided by your passionate purpose.
You can learn to trust yourself more each day.
You can finally step out of the shadows.
You can claim your divine birthright to shine brilliantly.
You can allow others to bask in your inspiring light.

You can cease hiding your authentic self.
You can live the life you desire.
You are worthy and deserving of the life you desire.

YOUR Life Expression

Is your life the manifested expression of your deliciously fulfilling personal taste?  Is your life aligned with your most preciously held values?  Are you living from a vantage point of your highest caliber expectations? Have you created a life by conscious design that makes you feel satisfied at your core?

Do you have ample time...

  • for relaxing and self-care?
  • for following inspired creativity
  • for connecting with your inner goddess?
  • for nurturing sacred relationships?
  • for allowing your life to unfold as a reflection of your feminine principles?

If you're feeling like you're not enough, you're in the right place

To get a clear idea of where to start, ask yourself honestly:

  • Is your richly hued life far more than enough to sustain you at the level of your deepest emotional, intellectual, and physical cravings, or does it reinforce your feelings of emptiness?
  • Are you celebrating the unique wonder of you in all your energetically limitless potential?
  • Does your unique energetic brilliance shine so brightly, that others take notice?
  • Is there more than enough wealth in your world to allow you to support the causes you cherish, to offer you the freedom to travel to wherever you wish, to feed your soul with the experiences of whatever you want, to support those you care about, and to make it such that you never have to worry again about money?
  • Are you well-loved and pampered, both by others and from yourself?
  • Is your wellness a protected daily ritual?
  • Are you living each day in your optimal state of mind-body-spirit alignment?
  • Do you feel whole, complete, or rather, do you feel like something’s missing? Something BIG….

To get to the point: If you’re not living a fabulously textured life consciously created by you, in the frequency of your infinite spirit, and crafted decidedly to suit your expansive purposeful desires, you’re in the right place….

Make a Choice to Thrive,
to Create the Life You Desire & Deserve

You have options. You may opt to schedule a complimentary clarity Phone/Skype call using the button below to determine where you are blocking your success. This is NOT a sales call.  It is a way for you to have expert eyes take a look at your life, to identify the places where you can make small shifts for big results. It’s a 15 minute call. 15 minutes that could change your life. IF at the end of the call WE BOTH fee like we’re a good fit for services then, and ONLY THEN, we will talk about your options. These options may include enrollment in a course, or one-on-one coaching in any number of coaching packages. 

Simply click the scheduling button and we will discover how to best empower you to live your best possible life: 
The one you desire and deserve.

Learn how to transform past pains & struggles into strengths

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When you click on the button above you’ll arrive on my personal schedule where you can find a time that works to connect for approximately 20 minutes. During that call we will determine your best next step to take. If we’re not a good fit, you will be provided with other options. Either way, you will have a clearer plan for taking steps to enhancing your life.


There are multiple options at your fingertips…. 

Check out the SERVICES MENU, and the BOOK STORE, and the BLOG.


…because it so accurately represents the energy of this website, and also my personal values, I would like to share with you my personal & business motto. If this motto resonates with you, you’re home; you’re in the best possible place to discover transformational tools and to receive life guidance, beginning with innumerable ways to enhance your life by enhancing your confidence and self-worth. 

Let me know what you think…or more accurately, what you feel….

Learning to live as your beautiful authentic, confident self is possible. You CAN live the life you desire, when you believe that you deserve that lifestyle. Thousands of women across the span of 35+ years and across global miles have each learned to love every facet of who they are.

This means thousands of women world-wide have become enlivened, and perhaps more importantly, they have also become better role models, happier with themselves, have learned to redefine “selfish” to mean “self-care”,  and have transformed into the beautiful goddess woman they were always meant to be….

Remember, “how you do anything is how you do everything,” so start with increased mindfulness about how you participate in life.

Is there room for improvement in any area of your life?

  • in your romances?
  • in your finances?
  • in your creativity outlets?
  • in living your purpose?
  • in your friends arena?
  • in your health?
  • in your self-image? 
  • in your personal confidence and self-esteem? 

I invite you to reach out to me.

Schedule that complimentary exploration session and let’s see if we’re a good fit for services:

All sessions are now done via Skype audio or in some rare cases on the phone.
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